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I just responded to a question about whether a partner's request for "space" or "a break" is a legitimate thing to do in a relationship or is it total BS. Whenever I hear one of those phrases, I think the dumpor wants to break up but is afraid that the dumpee is going to emotionally disintegrate as soon as they hear the phrase "break up," and dumpor does not want to deal with tears, anger, etc., so they are taking the coward's way out and asking for "time out" with no intentions of ever returning to the relationship.

But. . . OlderAndWiser knows it's a big world out there with many different people and maybe some people go through this experience and it actually keeps a relationship alive so tell me, what is your experience with this request for "space" or "a break?"

I am a Christian who strongly believes in my Christian values when it comes to dating, marriage, etc.
There's a girl that I am interested in, and - given she's always finding excuses to be around me in particular among other more telling signs whenever we're in the same place - she may very well like me back.

The issue is that she has been going out with a boy from her school for a few months now. I've never met him, and the only reason I even knew she had a boyfriend was because a friend of mine told me.

I never dated in high school, and I'm pretty new to the prospect of a proper relationship. If I am correct that she likes me back, my question is this -

Should I wait until she leaves him because her feelings have faded before asking her out, or is she waiting to break up with him to see if I confess?

I have avoided being forward or obvious with my feelings because I respect her current relationship, but was that the right choice? Should I have made an effort to show that I like her, or was it right to think I should avoid getting involved?

It would greatly hep if I could get the opinions of traditional Christians in particular, as they come from a similar background with similar values. Anyone is free and welcome to voice their own thoughts though, obviously