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The only relationship I've ever been in, we met and had sex the same night. Love came soon after, but we started from a point of intimacy. I don't know a ton about history but there have been a lot of arranged marriages, and going back to prehistoric days I'm willing to bet there were a lot of marriages/ permanent partnerships that started this way. Obviously the flip side is this is a roll of the dice, I just lucked out when I made it.

I know a lot of these won't work out, and with arranged marriages the element of choice is taken out entirely, which is bad. But my experience makes me feel like society places way too much emphasis on the semi-formal process of dating, engagement, and marriage with sex acceptable at some point within the range but not at the start.

Also people seem hung up on the time frame each of these things should take, though honestly dragging out the dating phase doesn't seem to do anything to make the marriage, if it happens, any stronger. You might hook up with the wrong person but you also might date the wrong person for an extended time.