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I've been with my boyfriend now for 2 1/2 years and it's the longest relationship I've been in. We have some issues, because sometimes I don't feel like a priority because he plays a pro sport (he doesn't have a contract or get paid) and he has a full time job and we live 2 hours away from each other. So once his sport goes into season I don't see him much at all because we both work full time so we don't see each other during the week and usually he's busy on the weekends because of the sport.

That's one issue, but besides the issues with his pro sport, I feel like he's a really good guy and a good friend and a good boyfriend. I would say I'm mostly happy because when he's not around he is really attentive and calls and texts me a lot. And I love when we do get to spend time together.

But lately I feel like I've been pulling away. I'm in my mid twenties so some friends are getting engaged and it kind of puts pressure on my mind wondering if he's the one or if I'm going through all this stress for nothing.

Is self-sabotaging possible? I feel like once I've been in a relationship for a bit, as soon as I get a little bit bored... I bail. I feel like I'm too young to be bored but at the same time what if I really hurt the guy who could potentially be the one?

Does anyone have any advice that could help me?

I'm stressed to the max.

So I've been seeing this guy for around 2 months before I 'ended it'. Have the world in common, everything was great until the 2nd month began; Suddenly he was pulling away, seeing me less, trying to 'slot me in';although he has 3 jobs I felt like shit, and I asked about it because I needed clarification although I hate confrontation.. he apologise profusely said he was busy etc and just wanted to see how things would go etc, then i didn't see him for 2 weeks becos he went to his hometown for Christmas, came back to london a day before nye- didn't ask me out or anything... didn't contact me from boxing day until nye at night wishing me a happy new year etc , at which point i was passive and new year's day he wrote a paragraph about how he hasn't given me the attention i deserve in the past few weeks, now isn't the right time for him whereas it may be for me and how he was sorry if i was pissed at him and that this doesn't mean we couldnt 'continue as we were, but only if that feeling is mutual' which is basically in my opinion a friends with benefits situation, as judging from the lack of contact and attention he was giving me seems to be the case, and I told him this and he disagreed and just said he enjoyed every minute of my company and didn't want to everything off just because the time isn't right.. I refused to listen to any of it, was angry that he wrote this all on Facebook as opposed to actually calling me and he did apologise but I felt like it wasn't enough because I felt like a hindrance and like the least of his priorities, when at the beginning he was always asking when i could meet him etc for another date etc.. I haven't slept with him or anything, been round to his place a few times but he respected my decision to not want to do it and the last thing in our Facebook argument was me verbally venting out my anger at him and him asking if we could meet.. it ended with me calling him a dickhead and removing him.. but I don't know if I let my anger get the better of me.