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27F Earlier last week on Wed, we went out to dinner and talked for 3 hrs. We’ve been in contact via Instagram messages. Friday we talked on the phone to buy tickets & see the Spider-Man movie Saturday. Fri evening I asked if he could stop sending those IG video reels politely, it was a bit overboard. Saturday before the movie, he said good morning and I replied with a wave emoji. He normally would continue the conversation via Instagram but doesn’t message again until he said he was waiting at the theater. I was not as bubbly as I was on Wednesday, I was very quiet (not against him). He was annoying me during the movie, he’s the type to laugh and make noises when something exciting came on. He nudged me during the movie and asked if I was ok because I was quiet and I said yes. At the end I told him thanks, he said you’re welcome and he said drive safe. On Wednesday, we ended with a hug. When I spoke with him Friday, he told me that he talked about me with his friends but Saturday was so off, he sent a message after movie saying that he wasn’t really feeling it from me and it’s not going to work for him. I left his message on seen. He unmatched with me on the dating app and I stopped following him on IG. Bit soon to say but he’s still following me on IG and viewed my stories after saying he didn’t want to talk to me anymore. Hasn’t gotten around to unfollowing me I guess. My social anxiety gets the better of me with these situations I’m cursed. I just don’t get why I can’t find a guy that wants to fight for me

TL; DR: Should I have replied when this guy said he was no longer interested?

27F Earlier last week on Wed, we went out to dinner and talked for 3 hrs. We’ve been in contact via Instagram messages. Friday we talked on the phone to buy tickets & see the Spider-Man movie Saturday. Fri evening I asked if he could stop sending those IG video reels politely, it was a bit overboard. Saturday before the movie, he said good morning and I replied with a wave emoji. He normally would continue the conversation via Instagram but doesn’t message again until he said he was waiting at the theater. I was not as bubbly as I was on Wednesday, I was very quiet (not against him). He was annoying me during the movie, he’s the type to laugh and make noises when something exciting came on. He nudged me during the movie and asked if I was ok because I was quiet and I said yes. At the end I told him thanks, he said you’re welcome and he said drive safe. On Wednesday, we ended with a hug. When I spoke with him Friday, he told me that he talked about me with his friends but Saturday was so off, he sent a message after movie saying that he wasn’t really feeling it from me and it’s not going to work for him. I left his message on seen. He unmatched with me on the dating app and I stopped following him on IG. Bit soon to say but he’s still following me on IG and viewed my stories after saying he didn’t want to talk to me anymore. Hasn’t gotten around to unfollowing me I guess. My social anxiety gets the better of me with these situations I’m cursed. I just don’t get why I can’t find a guy that wants to fight for me

TL; DR: was he just not interested or am I to blame because of my lack of enthusiasm?

27F Earlier this week on Wed, we went out to dinner and talked for 3 hrs. We’ve been in contact via Instagram messages. Friday we talked on the phone to buy tickets & see the Spider-Man movie Saturday. Fri evening I asked if he could stop sending those IG video reels politely, it was a bit overboard. Saturday before the movie, he said good morning and I replied with a wave emoji. He normally would continue the conversation via Instagram but doesn’t message again until he said he was waiting at the theater. I was not as bubbly as I was on Wednesday, I was very quiet (not against him). He was annoying me during the movie, he’s the type to laugh and make noises when something exciting came on. He nudged me during the movie and asked if I was ok because I was quiet and I said yes. At the end I told him thanks, he said you’re welcome and he said drive safe. On Wednesday, we ended with a hug. When I spoke with him Friday, he told me that he talked about me with his friends but Saturday was so off, he sent a message after movie saying that he wasn’t really feeling it from me and it’s not going to work for him. I left his message on seen. He unmatched with me on the dating app and I stopped following him on IG. Bit soon to say but he’s still following me on IG and viewed my stories after saying he didn’t want to talk to me anymore. Hasn’t gotten around to unfollowing me I guess. My social anxiety gets the better of me with these situations I’m cursed.

TL; DR: was he just not interested or am I to blame because of my lack of enthusiasm?

Earlier this week on Wed, we went out to dinner and talked for 3 hrs. We’ve been in contact via Instagram messages. Friday we talked on the phone to buy tickets & see the Spider-Man movie yesterday. Fri evening I asked if he could stop sending those IG video reels politely, it was a bit overboard. Yesterday before the movie, he said good morning and I replied with a wave emoji. He normally would continue the conversation via Instagram but doesn’t message again until he said he was waiting at the theater. I was not as bubbly as I was on Wednesday, I was very quiet (not against him). He was annoying me during the movie, he’s the type to laugh and make noises when something exciting came on. He nudged me during the movie and asked if I was ok because I was quiet and I said yes. At the end I told him thanks, he said you’re welcome and he said drive safe. On Wednesday, we ended with a hug. When I spoke with him Friday, he told me that he talked about me with his friends but yesterday was so off, he sent a message after movie saying that he wasn’t really feeling it from me and it’s not going to work for him. He unmatched with me on the dating app and I stopped following him on IG. Bit soon to say but he’s still following me on IG and viewed my stories after saying he didn’t want to talk to me anymore. Hasn’t gotten around to unfollowing me I guess.

Do you also do it? I'm more a emotional person, so I know I can overestimate things. That's why I want your know what you think.


A friend of ours calls you. He ask how you are, you answer something like "Oh, I'm doing fine..." with a sad tone of voice and he just say "got it" and then start to talk about him. He do it 2 times, the second time asking if you'd go to a place you both have to go, you asked you totally forgot it and he answer with the same "got it"... and start talking about him again. Then ends the conversation saying he just called to know how you are and if you will go to there. You answer with the same tone of voice again that you're doing ok and taking class now, and he says "OK. Bye", then hung up.
Ps: he's a very talkative person and he talks a lot about him. So much you almost don't speak.
Other times I said what I was feeling with more details and his answer was "Oh, what a shame. Everything will be better soon, don't worry" and then starting talking about something else.