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It all starts out with most women preferring players, fuckbois and assholes over the good guys because, well, I dont know why.

But the good men are the ones who are trampled in the process. Because they are turned down because who wants nice guys right?

It would have been a more equal I playground if the good girls wouldn't friend zone the ones that love and respect them for those who dont respect them and see them just as easy sex.

This leads to the good guys suffer from low self esteem and eventually not wanting to take the initiative at all, and you can't blame them for it.
You can hear quotes like,

"I know he is a player, but I want him , i dont know what it is"

These are the same girls that get their heart broken or used for sex and then dumped, and who are the ones that they got to for a shoulder to cry on?
You are right,
THE GOOD GUYS


Then it is followed by statements like,
" I am never going to find a good guy who loves me and doesn't play with my emotions "
The good guy builds up the courage to show his feelings towards her when she recovers from her 'bad boy dumped me' phase and what happens?
Wham!!
" how dare you? Get away from me, I thought you cared about me"



Another blow to the poor guy.
And thus pseudo hurt female goes back to dating fuckbois and after having completely shattered , who does she expect to step in and treat her right?
You guessed it right, the good guy. Who she hurt time and time again, but he stood by her even though it hurt him to bits.


And if he refuses to take her as a partner, then ohhh my lord FEMINISM. The rambling about slut shaming starts and blaming all men for judging women for the past relationships and how all men just want sex.
The worst part
NOTE:
I am not saying that all women are like this, some learn their lesson before its too late, some know what they want and they stay away from fuckbois because they learn from the mistakes of others.

I'd like to hear your views and opinions about it.

Please take all into consideration...

Ok, so I met him almost 2 years ago. We met online and clicked from the beginning. However, due to our circumstances & crazy amount of distance we haven't been able to meet until now.

About 8 months into talking, I felt like I was investing a lot of time & emotions into him so I didn't want him talking to other people. I was completely driven by my emotions and asked for us to be in a relationship even though we hadn't even met yet. I understand that from an objective point of view that seems dumb and illogical to be committed to someone you haven't even met and looking back, I wish I didn't do that. He also made it very clear that he wasn't ready for a relationship but I pushed it anyways (again I know that's my fault).

But soon after him agreeing to the relationship I became suspicious if he was actually being faithful or not. And about 7 months into us being "official" I found out he had about 3 one night stands over the course of us dating.

We've talked about it & there was nothing emotional. He even showed me the conversations between him and these people and it was clear that it was only sexually driven. Still, i felt hurt. And if this was a normal relationship or less complex situation I would've left immediately. But I basically gave him an ultimatum - either a relationship or stop talking which now I realize was wrong and I have not been very understanding in the past.. not someone he could feel comfortable being honest to. I'm not blaming myself for him cheating but it would be a lie to say my past actions didn't contribute to him being so dishonest.

Overall, he's been amazing to me.. always there for me. And there's so much of the relationship I don't want to lose. So I'm stuck between leaving and meeting him then giving another chance. He's done everything from giving me his passwords to answering my questions to anything to make me feel more comfortable. I'm conflicted. Please help