For starters, I was completely shocked of:
The cookie-cutter mentality of most of them
They ALL love shoes
They ALL love tall guys
They ALL are full of themselves
Sure, there are probably exceptions, but I'm not seeing them
Before continuing let me clarify I'm a 100% straight male. I'm not into dudes and never have. I actually always adored women... that is until I finally started dating them and interacting with them more.
I've been in long term relationships, have had a good number of hookups and currently am in a friends with benefits relationship which is probably more up my alley than any other kind. I was genuinely surprised to discover just how sociopathic many women are. I was raised in a traditional/conservative household and so I was raised to place women on a pedestal because their "nature" was more civilized than that of man's, but the reality is they're not the romantics, they're not the creatives, and they're not the emotional intuitives that society makes them out to be. They're straight up narcissists.
Let me clarify this take is not meant to trash women (though probably all women will take it as such), but I am basing myself exclusively on my experience, and my own disappointment. This myTake is mostly geared towards guys.
You'd expect things to change after the 10th girl you are with, but it doesn't. I'm trying to paint a picture on why some men just quit the idea of true romantic love from a women, and decide long term relationships and modern dating is a complete waste of time. And for me, I rather be without any sort of commitment with any woman.
I've also realized how easy they have it (cliched, I know). I've always thought we were on a somewhat uneven playing field, but it wasn't until I started dating women when I found out that every 6+ girl has an enormous social circle consisting of dozens of orbiters and fuck buddies. I understand how they feel so entitled now. If you had dozens of girls sending you "good morning, beautiful 😘" texts every single day your ego would skyrocket. Once you get that kind of treatment it becomes the standard.
I saw a comment here on gag where someone said to "check a girl's social media inbox. It will wake you up faster than anything." More truth hasn't been spoken.
One girl I dated had zero friends. She never spoke to anyone besides me except her family, always kept to herself and dropped one word responses to everyone who wasn't me. Then I saw her facebook messages. At least 10 guys she was talking to on the side. They're all "attention whores" and you there is a BIG chance you will never be enough for them to want to fight their hypergamous nature, because even if you're the only one giving her the time of day and give her all the love in the world, there's a big chance that won't be enough, in her head she is telling herself that she probably deserves more.
Nothing I just mentioned, though, ruins my attraction to women more than these points:
Their extreme hypocrisy and their ability to hamster-wheel justification for every action, thought, emotion, or motive they have.
You can have all of the evidence and undeniable proof stacked against them, and they will STILL respond in the same manner (order of actions may vary):
*Deny/Lie
*Blame someone/something else
*Cry/Manipulate emotionally
*Become enraged, use strawmen, ad hominem, or gaslighting arguments.
A hypothetical example:
Her: "You checked my fucking Facebook??? You are violating my privacy you fuck"
Me: We just found out you are pregnant with our child and you have been out fucking Chad!"
Her: This Is why I do that. You are so controlling and suffocating and consumed with jealousy I can never do ANYTHING. You scare me!
Me: YOU HAVE BEEN FUCKING CHEATING ON ME!!!!
Her: You SEE? You are a psycho. Why don't you hit me! That's what you want right?" I don't even recognize you anymore, you've changed. All you do is work work work and when you get home you just sit in front of that stupid computer.
Me: We're having a child.....I need to work to support us.
She: You just don't get it do you? It's OVER, I'm leaving.
So you're left with the fault even if you didn't do anything. And she leaves with her mind crystal clear. If you haven't been there, once you do you will be absolutely flabbergasted. No sign of love, guilt, repentance, or appreciation. Forget all the "I love you", "I want to have your child", "You satisfy me like no one else" - women think in the moment. The only time they will stay true to any big commitment is when it completely suits them.
But how would I know, right?
I've slept with two married women. And they aren't even what you would think are sluts. I'm talking decent looking girls girls who don't really swear, go to church, and you'd be proud to take them home to mom. And it isn't even that hard, just tell them a few sweet things they want to hear and their minds do the real work. It made me really believe that no matter what I do, I'll never be able to find a truly loyal woman because their minds are so easily changed by their feelings. Just a few minutes of sweet noise and all their past feelings for you are forgotten.
They are pure emotion and no logic. And the worst thing is their emotion revolves around themselves. They are solipsistic creatures by nature. And I am convinced this is simply part of the female condition, rather than a learned behavior.
Another thing that makes me feel very uneasy to trust women is also their lack of honor. Their ability to ghost from a LTR. I find this shocking despite the fact that I've been in 5 LTR (happened in 4 of them), and how girls I've been with also put their partners on the side in order to be with me. My game is rock-solid, and I can go ice-cold if necessary (at least now I can), but women - it's like they're not human.
My ex of 3 years, for example, one day simply ghosted me like she was flipping off a light switch. Took two months to figure out why and all I got was that "the relationship had lost its spark"... she was with another guy a two weeks after she left me.
I just exposed my life's story here. But I would like to end this by looking at the big picture. I'm also less and less attracted to women by the day for the following reasons (that affect everyone and anyone):
- Women genuinely have no purpose apart from having babies, and that's why they are hypergamous. Be mad all you want but men are better at everything else, and most things you own, where you live, the streets you walk on everyday, your car, the buildings, all technology is man made and man invented.
- Women can have children they don't want to unless it's for financial gains (to trap the man), they always scream for free abortions whenever they can (expecting men's tax dollars to pay for it). Although in some cases I think abortion is genuinely needed, but definitely not 3000 of them everyday (just in USA).
- Women aren't as good looking without photoshop, filters or makeup (at least 99.99%of them) unless. Whatever looks they have disappear after they reach 27 or so. They are on a biological clock after all.
- How they misuse power when it is given to them. Men are physically and mentally stronger than women and yet the majority of women have not been raped or killed or beaten or even mistreated (after all less than 3% of people are potential rapists). This also goes to show men's moral superiority. Men could have destroyed women if they wanted to but instead have built a safe and secure world free from the threats of nature, filled with medicines of all kinds, all sorts of utilities. But it is not the same for women.
Give women the right to abortion voilà 3000 per day. Give them the right to vote, voilà socialism creeps in (nuclear family gets destroyed, welfare state is established). Give them power in divorce courts voilà divorce rates skyrocket and 70%of them are initiated by women. Put them in teaching positions and they will sleep with their under age students. Give them custody 90% of the time and voilà over 50% of child abusers are women.
- Also their lack of understanding how the world works. If only they knew how much effort men put in to ensure society keeps going, they'd ditch feminism in a heartbeat. But they won't. They think "men are mean coz they don't listen to muh feelings and are rapists n killers". If only men disappeared for one day I'd like to see how they would survive.
- Their lack of purpose. They are not philosophical. Their highest purpose might be buying shoes. They are not thinkers and throughout history they have rarely ever produced any great work. Still today, most engineers advancing technology are men. Inventors and creators are still men.
- The epidemic of the detrimental effect being raised by a single mother has on men nationally. Over 50% of incarcerated criminals were raised in a single mother environment. This doesn't even include the amount of mental health issues that arise from it (more chances of ADD with co-morbid depression, and alcoholism/drug use). All because single mothers are only concerned with getting security for their children. They aren't looking for a partnership. They're looking for a hand out. All women want to do is party and waste the most important years of their lives away and then misery happens.
With ALL that said, and I'm sure there are many things I left out, here I am still in hopes to find that one unicorn.
I'm still here actually trying to find a fucking unicorn. But god knows that isn't happening.
Probably the third most shocking thing about women to me is their culture of rejecting the stable nuclear family, in favor of wasting their lives away and years of fertility partying, working dead end jobs, and doing drugs rather than applying their time to become mothers. America no doubt is plagued by femme culture that calls for women to waste their time in the pursuit of promiscuous sex and pointless careers when they are suited to be caretakers and home builders. But hey, I suppose this is just the world we live in so that's why I HAD TO accommodate myself in it.
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