Should you tell your boyfriend you lost Interest in him or tell him the relationship isn’t working out? He is very nonchalant?

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blueonblack22 · Accepted Answer

Tell him it isn’t going to work out first. Don’t give any more details beyond that (again at first). He might of seen this coming and already knows the painful reason why. Throwing in unnecessary detail will only rub salt in the wound.

However if he does asks why, then be honest. But be respectfully honest. Just because you don’t have feelings anymore doesn’t mean you can’t still respect him. One easy way to do this is “Alright I will tell you the truth because I respect you….”

Like-ability and respect are not the same thing. It’s easy to respect people you like. But it takes character and mental effort to respect some you don’t have it for anymore.

Respect requires you to see this from his POV. Doesn’t mean you stay with him and/or do what he wants of course. But it shows you are considerate of his feelings even though you don’t have feelings for him anymore

Men really need more respect from women nowadays when it comes to these situations. But a lot of women really don’t understand what respect really is.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

If you are unhappy with him than end it with him , why hold onto someone you fell out of love with? You are only hurting yourself by staying with someone you truly don’t love , and wasting your time. So end it with him so he can move on and find himself a girl that will be happy in love with him

electromagnetic · Accepted Answer

If you suspect he’s cheating and you don’t like him anymore, leave him. That’s it.

strawberrybaby3 · Accepted Answer

Yes , if you aren’t interested anymore , you shouldn’t definitely tell him.

V_Injector · Answer

Just say it's over. If he freaks out over it then you just avoided being shacked up with a beta male.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Do you intend to stay with him for the rest of your life and pretend that you are happy?

abheem · Answer

It's always best to communicate honestly and respectfully. Be fair to him and express how you feel. It may hurt him, but he will respect you for being honest.
My last relationship ended in heartbreak for me. She lost interest in me and refused to communicate with me. Whenever I brought it up, she just brushed it off. I got tired and ended it. Later, I found out that she met someone while we were still together.
If she had told me that she lost interest in me and had met someone, I would have appreciated her honesty and respected her for telling the truth. It would have given me closure to move on.
So please, be fair to him and tell him in a respectful way.

Flatmanlewis · Answer

So, collecting some of the data points off a few of your replies, what appears to be a wedding band, a purse in his car he tried to conceal, other girls texting him, and so on leads me to ask: Have you been to his place? How long are you boyfriend/girlfriend? Are you guys spending weekends away and taking trips or is this some online/long distance thing where you only occasionally see one another or a meet in a hotel kind of fling thing?

Purpleronnie · Answer

This is so so obvious and basic it shouldn’t even be a question, of course you should tell him regardless of what you think of him.

Reading your replies to the answers of others , I think this gives you more reason to tell him so I fail to understand what’s stopping you 🤷‍♂️

itsclearlynicholas · Answer

I'm a nonchalant guy and that's why I don't care for relationships or dating or flirting. If a woman (let alone even a man, cringe or other?) tried to come onto me or whatever, I'd be like uhh forget you and I'd waltz on out of there or just ignore or look back like "can I help you, not, narrow eyed blank" lol 😆

spartan55 · Answer

I see you've lost interest because you 'think he's cheating' Any evidence? Or just lots of stuff you made up in your head?

Awesomesauce2005 · Answer

Please yes! How is this even a question? My time has been wasted so many times because she wouldn't be honest about things like this!

slatyb · Answer

Just say "Sorry, it's not working for me. I wish you the best "

FuqUFggt · Answer

Nope. You should never tell him thy. You should go to your grave letting him think you loved him. You should do this no matter how early you meet your grave.

Anonymous · Answer

Ok, exactly why have you lost interest in him?

A_Nihilist · Answer

It's important to tell them why you want to break up. You don't have to be horrible about it. But not giving someone closure could potentially haunt them for the rest of their life.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

You should tell him why. The WHY is very important

sheikalana · Answer

Yes, you should.

DrPepper12 · Answer

Your needs have changed or no longer fulfilled.

VV3ZZY123 · Answer

Being single is awesome!

JHAYES317 · Answer

Tell him whatever the truth is…

jahaims · Answer

You should break up if you lost interest

IWILLPLEASEYOU · Answer

SAME THING WITH EACH ONE.

Anonymous · Answer

Both ways it’s going to hurt.

thegreenyogi · Answer

Tell him the truth.

MsProsperity · Answer

Tell him the truth

LiamJHayden · Answer

Yes.

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