Should you tell your boyfriend you lost Interest in him or tell him the relationship isn’t working out? He is very nonchalant?

[Anonymous]

[blueonblack22]

Tell him it isn’t going to work out first. Don’t give any more details beyond that (again at first). He might of seen this coming and already knows the painful reason why. Throwing in unnecessary detail will only rub salt in the wound.

However if he does asks why, then be honest. But be respectfully honest. Just because you don’t have feelings anymore doesn’t mean you can’t still respect him. One easy way to do this is “Alright I will tell you the truth because I respect you….”

Like-ability and respect are not the same thing. It’s easy to respect people you like. But it takes character and mental effort to respect some you don’t have it for anymore.

Respect requires you to see this from his POV. Doesn’t mean you stay with him and/or do what he wants of course. But it shows you are considerate of his feelings even though you don’t have feelings for him anymore

Men really need more respect from women nowadays when it comes to these situations. But a lot of women really don’t understand what respect really is.

[Finchie40]

If you are unhappy with him than end it with him , why hold onto someone you fell out of love with? You are only hurting yourself by staying with someone you truly don’t love , and wasting your time. So end it with him so he can move on and find himself a girl that will be happy in love with him

[Asker]

He wouldn’t let me end the relationship

[Finchie40]

My advice is to just start distancing yourself from him and focus on doing your own things and do not include him in any of it , and hopefully he gets the hint that you don’t love him anymore and moves on , if he doesn’t? Than he is a moron

[Asker]

Okay

[electromagnetic]

If you suspect he’s cheating and you don’t like him anymore, leave him. That’s it.

[strawberrybaby3]

Yes , if you aren’t interested anymore , you shouldn’t definitely tell him.

[strawberrybaby3]

*should

[Asker]

I think he’s cheating that’s why I don’t like him anymore

[V_Injector]

Just say it's over. If he freaks out over it then you just avoided being shacked up with a beta male.

[OlderAndWiser]

Do you intend to stay with him for the rest of your life and pretend that you are happy?

[Asker]

Nope

[OlderAndWiser]

So there is one answer that involves not wasting any more time.

[Asker]

He won’t let me end he relationship

[OlderAndWiser]

YOU DON'T NEED HIS PERMISSION TO END THE RELATIONSHIP! That is usually an excuse that people use when they themselves don't want to end the relationship.

[Asker]

So I just need to stop talking to him right?

[OlderAndWiser]

Whatever you need to do so that you aren't tempted to go back to him. Tell him that you are going no contact - not to make him miss you, but because you never want to talk to him again. Block him on your phone and all social media. Tell your closest friends what you are doing so that you will have their support.

And while you are not talking to him, spend some time thinking about what you did that contributed to you ending up in this situation. You don't want to repeat this, so learn whatever lessons you can learn.

[Asker]

Thanks

[OlderAndWiser]

Good luck! And don’t let yourself down!

[abheem]

It's always best to communicate honestly and respectfully. Be fair to him and express how you feel. It may hurt him, but he will respect you for being honest.
My last relationship ended in heartbreak for me. She lost interest in me and refused to communicate with me. Whenever I brought it up, she just brushed it off. I got tired and ended it. Later, I found out that she met someone while we were still together.
If she had told me that she lost interest in me and had met someone, I would have appreciated her honesty and respected her for telling the truth. It would have given me closure to move on.
So please, be fair to him and tell him in a respectful way.

[Flatmanlewis]

So, collecting some of the data points off a few of your replies, what appears to be a wedding band, a purse in his car he tried to conceal, other girls texting him, and so on leads me to ask: Have you been to his place? How long are you boyfriend/girlfriend? Are you guys spending weekends away and taking trips or is this some online/long distance thing where you only occasionally see one another or a meet in a hotel kind of fling thing?

[Asker]

We hangout sometimes and we been together for 4 weeks

[Flatmanlewis]

I suspect there may be some communication gaps in this situation. May be worth either a good conversation or recognizing that this may be a case of one person thinking you are boyfriend/girlfriend and the other thinking you’re just dating and/or hanging out from time to time.

[Asker]

He said I should try to work out the realtionship

[Purpleronnie]

This is so so obvious and basic it shouldn’t even be a question, of course you should tell him regardless of what you think of him.


Reading your replies to the answers of others , I think this gives you more reason to tell him so I fail to understand what’s stopping you 🤷‍♂️

[Asker]

He said we can work on the realtionship

[itsclearlynicholas]

I'm a nonchalant guy and that's why I don't care for relationships or dating or flirting. If a woman (let alone even a man, cringe or other?) tried to come onto me or whatever, I'd be like uhh forget you and I'd waltz on out of there or just ignore or look back like "can I help you, not, narrow eyed blank" lol 😆

[itsclearlynicholas]

Back to the question' shrugs, lady if you say it's over with him, then it's over with him lol ♀️ "strong, confident independent woman"

[spartan55]

I see you've lost interest because you 'think he's cheating' Any evidence? Or just lots of stuff you made up in your head?

[Asker]

When I was in his car he had a women purse and he moved it away so fast

[Asker]

He mentioned another girl texted him

[Asker]

His friend girl is suspicious

[Asker]

He wear a ring that looks like a wedding band he never take off

[spartan55]

This is supposed to be your boyfriend?

[Asker]

Yes and I told him I lost interest. He said we can work on the realtionship I said nope.

[Awesomesauce2005]

Please yes! How is this even a question? My time has been wasted so many times because she wouldn't be honest about things like this!

[Asker]

I asked because he said we should work on the relationship

[Awesomesauce2005]

Maybe that means that he isn't satisfied with the quality of communication lol

[Asker]

It’s his fault he keep saying he’s too busy

[Awesomesauce2005]

Ask him why he is too bust when he wasn't before. Ask him what changed. If he can't or won't tell you he is most likely cheating on you. I hope I am wrong. Good luck 👍

[Asker]

I did ask him he make up stupid excuses

[Asker]

I think he’s cheating also

[Awesomesauce2005]

Make him pay for his disloyalty lmao 🤣

[slatyb]

Just say "Sorry, it's not working for me. I wish you the best "

[FuqUFggt]

Nope. You should never tell him thy. You should go to your grave letting him think you loved him. You should do this no matter how early you meet your grave.

[Anonymous]

Ok, exactly why have you lost interest in him?

[Asker]

Because he’s suspicious acting and he claims he’s too busy. He play a lot of games.

[A_Nihilist]

It's important to tell them why you want to break up. You don't have to be horrible about it. But not giving someone closure could potentially haunt them for the rest of their life.

[Ms_Facesitter]

You should tell him why. The WHY is very important

[sheikalana]

Yes, you should.

[DrPepper12]

Your needs have changed or no longer fulfilled.

[VV3ZZY123]

Being single is awesome!

[itsclearlynicholas]

Thats why 5 years my senior fellow single man. The ladies did try to flirt with me in my 20s and cringey even some of the guys potentially lol for all I know lol, and I'm just like Amy going "no, no, no" jingle chorus lol Amy Winehouse lol 🍷

[VV3ZZY123]

Lol them do that dont it 🥂 cheers buddy

[itsclearlynicholas]

Either timing was off or their habits/baggage was a turn off 😞📴

[itsclearlynicholas]

The ladies ♀️

[itsclearlynicholas]

The amount of white chicks like my white who eat sushi, for example, vomits profusely 🤮🤢🤮🤢 🍣🍤

[itsclearlynicholas]

Followed by ladies who tan, real or fake tan, or who tattoo or who drink, vape or worse lol 😆🤣

[itsclearlynicholas]

Turn offs 😭

[VV3ZZY123]

Hahahaha

[JHAYES317]

Tell him whatever the truth is…

[jahaims]

You should break up if you lost interest

[Anonymous]

Both ways it’s going to hurt.

[IWILLPLEASEYOU]

SAME THING WITH EACH ONE.