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My boyfriend told me last night that he thinks I shit talk him and demonize him behind his back whenever we have a fight when that couldn't be farther from reality. This was all based on a misunderstanding about what one of my friends told him, she told him things I said about myself but she thought I meant they were about him. So this came across like I was shit talking him and he admitted he hasn't really trusted me since! I would never go around saying bad things about him because I only want people to think the best of him. But sometimes when we argue I do ask my mom or best friend for advice, not ranting about him just asking for advice is that wrong? Usually their advice ends up helping me resolve the argument.. I do keep serious things between the two of us I only ask for advice on stupid stuff like "How do I nicely ask him to not leave his laundry in piles all over the floor?" and that's the extent of it. But 90% of the time whenever I talk about I'm to other people I am bragging about how great he is and I wish he'd trust me on this! It just scares me that a small understanding where I never even said anything about him and was only talking about myself could turn into him not trusting me for nearly a year! I explained all of this to him and asked him to confront me about it right away instead of bottling it up for months, and getting more and more upset over something that isn't even true. But it still feels like he'd rather believe my friend's mistake over me and still refuses to trust me. So now I feel like shit and don't know what to do. It just sucks that just because my friend misheard what I said and told him thoughtlessly what she thought I said my whole relationship is rocky. Maybe if he'd asked someone for advice they ould have told him to just confront me and ask me about it before it got this bad and he started resenting me.