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I tried to ask this another way but I don't think folks got what I was trying to say so I am going to try a different approach.

I am often telling women to accept men as men--to accept how they view the world and to make allowances for their fears and the things that make them truly wonderful and masculine.

However, on the flip side, I see a growing trend of males who will mock and ridicule girls for feminine insecurities and flaws. And we wonder why there is a rise in girls cutting themselves?

Here is a news flash dude--women are not men--they are women. If you want ladies to respect your need for space, and to love you even if you are thin, don't make a million dollars, or look like Brad Pitt can't yah give a girl an inch when she asks about how fat she looks in her jeans?

We ALL have things that worry us--and I am sorry, but women DO have a ton of pressure on them to look "hot" and not just from media perceptions. Men are by nature very visual. The fact that even deeply in love, committed men cannot help looking at beautiful ladies ( and who can blame them) shows that they enjoy pleasing physical views and shapes.

When a woman asks you if you find her attractive, she is saying she cares about pleasing you and keeping you around.

I mean, if she just let herself go and got fat and lazy, you'd be complaining about how she didn't do it for you any more, right?

Women make a ton of mistakes in the dating arena-- *raising hand* been there, done that bought the t-shirt. Another news flash--men make dating mistakes too.

I grew up, lucked up and married a great NICE guy! He has insecurities about being five one, but I do not roll my eyes and tell him to get over it or act as if he is an insecure basket case. I nurture and love him and remind him of all the wonderful qualities he has that makes me kiss the ground he walks on. To me, he is ten feet tall and no one can touch him--he is my hero, my rock and my one true love.

I give him what he is seeking—validation and reassurance. Why not? What does it cost me to do this?

Stop trashing women for wondering if you desire them of if they wonder if they look fat or seek compliments—feel happy that she cares enough to want to look good and attractive for you and make sure you always knows that she is an angel in your eyes.

In time, her insecurity will cease and you will have built a solid relationship built on respect for her femininity and her fragile humanity.

We are different by design and this okay--instead of complaining about it accept and love it--men and women are special beings and need to learn to accept even the things that drive us crazy about one another.

People keep complaining about how no woman/man will give them a chance. I am nice, they say-- attractive, have good job--so it must be the world and not me.

Chances are however, that people don't realize that they have a chip on their shoulders or are giving off an angry/bitter/desperate vibe that smart people run away from.

That leaves only the players and manipulators who can see their weaknesses an use them to hurt them over and over again.

Instead of seeing their faults and fixing them so this doesn't happen however, they figure it must be because women don't want nice guys, or all guys are dogs. Hummm, maybe it is time to see what we ourselves are doing to make our dating lives unfruitful.

I mean--is it just easier for people to lash out at the world than to fix themselves?

I had to internalize and see why I was messing up. Come to find out I was too clingy/desperate and that kept picking emotionally unavailable men who were like my dad, a drug abuser.

I wanted to be "saved" by love.

Emotionally stable people with morals ran--leaving jerks who used my neediness and pain to their advantage.

I never gave up hope,and when I realized where I was erring, I made healthy changes.

In time, I met a really good guy and we have been happily married ever since.

So many people stand in the way of their own unhappiness but want to blame others.

Why do we do this to ourselves?

Check out his article on the 101 bad habits we fall into that make keep us single, as this will maybe shed some light:

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