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If a kid makes a mess, in accidental form be calm with them but DON'T clean it for them. Simply tell them get some material and clean it up themselves. Teach responsibility this way. Now if it is on purpose, yes of course acts of little discipline are in order. Be firm with initial warning looking them in the eye and telling them if they do that again they will lose this privileged for so long, and NEVER be a hypocrite about it and just let them off easy because you feel bad. That will make them think all they will ever get is a slap on the hand and that's it. Don't let that one time go necessarily either. Sit them in timeout for a good short while totally alone and tell them to think about what they did, then come back after they calm down from the expected tantrum from the consequence and explain why what they did was wrong. Then each time they do it again, progressively make the punishment a little higher. Taking toys away for longer and replacing that with house chores and such. Let good behavior throughout be slightly rewarding. Natural consequences is an effective learning experience also. If they want to touch something hot. Let them. Just because you tell them it's hot doesn't mean they will believe you. Think anyone will just believe me when I say aliens exist? Shoot no. If they see it with their own eyes and experience it personally though, that can convince even the biggest skeptics. Sometimes you have to make things a tad excessive without overdoing it. Avoid yelling and physical lashes as often as possible. I was raised this way and I was pretty stubborn, but it worked on me so it should on others

https://www.girlsaskguys.com/social-relationships/a48520-feminism-women-can-t-handle-equality
This my take reminded me of something that I've wanted to ask for a long time.

So before all the feminists and SJW start jumping down my throat let me explain what I'm convinced both are.

Equality: true equality, you admit men and women are both equal in most things, you think women are capable of the same physical feats as men, the same mental feats as men, and are just as capable of fighting along side or against men on equal footing, without any sort of assistance from society.

You appreciate chivalry and the like, but you can carry your own weight, fight your own battles, and don't immediately cringe in agony when someone mentions going dutch. You feel that women are capable of keeping up with men in this current environment, and all you want is for others to acknowledge this fact.

Normalization:You believe that women should have certain rights and benefits over men in order to compensate for the natural advantages men have over women. Things like chivalry and what not is to be expected, You either think you are incapable of doing manual labor, or just feel it is beneath you, and the laws should be made to make things easier for women.

To put it simply albeit indirectly, you are basically admitting that women, on a fundamental level are weaker and less capable then men, and feel that women of society should get special treatment so that both sides can be equal.

So to put it simply, you either think we are already equal and you want people to just acknowledge that, or you don't think we are equal and you want society to have specific laws so that we will be.

I want you to be honest when answering this, cause you may not like it. But sometimes its important to ask yourself questions like this.

I meet a nice girl via Teamspeak and we talked and played much via the Internet (bot alone most of the time). After a short time she gave me her number so that she we can write with each other, if not one of us isn't at the PC. We talked much and after a while I developed feelings for her. I told her about the feelings and she wasn't sure, how she should respond to that and wanted some time. We doesn't know that much about the others, but we talked a lot about our problems and helped the other one out (not here xD). At this time, I wanted to get closer to her (maybe too much) and shared a photo if the other one (that wasn't easy for me, because I don't have a good self-esteem). I texted her too much and she told me about that. After about one month she turned me down for now, because we both have some problems to work on (yes we do) and she wasn't sure about her feelings about me. She met a friend via teamspeak, who she thought had feelings for her. He seemed interested and said something like:''Let's see how our it develops between us''. After the second time he slept at her place (don't know if they had sex), he told her, that he doesn't had feelings for her and is unfriendly to her until now (they meet each other over TS but she blocked him after a short while). Now she is unsecure about her feelings and I told her it is ok for me. We both feared, that our friendship we developed could get destroyed, if we break up. It is ok for her, that we get to know each other more and we meet at the Gamescom for the first time (a little bit nervous about it <3). Last but not least, I am about to move into another city (to find a new job) and hoped, I could move near her. She told me, that it is ok for her too. It is hard for me to just atay as a friend, but I think I can do it and if the relationship doesn't end with a bang, we should be good friends. And now my Question. Is it OK to hopefully get into in a relationship with her after some time and move near her?