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Let's call them Jordan and Mary. A married couple and they have 4 kids.

Jordan worked abroad for almost ten years in order to provide his family's needs. He comes home ocassionally with gifts for his children. New toys, foods, and gadgets.

He worked hard in order to earn a lot of money that he rarely buys anything for himself. He even lowers his budget when eating his everyday meals just to earn that money.

He comes home to surprise his loving wife just to find her with another man. He also found out that the guy was a drug addict and the savings he sent to his wife went to that guy. Furious, he beat his wife by slapping her.

Their fightings went to divorce and the wife left the 4 kids to his care. The wife was also pregnant with the other guy's kid. That's why she couldn't bring her children with her.

As years pass by, Jordan continued to work abroad to support his kids, they go to one of the best schools but then his kids started neglect him and ignore him.

Jordan thought his kids were just upset because he didn't have enough time to spend with them so worked hard and bought them the latest phone brand. They didn't even thank him. Jordan came back home and also met a woman who really cares about him and they started living together. They fixed their house and are now financially stable without working abroad.

As years go by, his children started to disrespect him until all of them ran away and went to their mother's side. Leaving their father.

What do you think happened to the children and why did they chose their mother despite her leaving them?

Was Jordan's love for his children not enough?

He went from being heads over heels for me and addicted (his words), discussing meeting my family and marriage, to breaking up suddenly. But he didn't ditch me/ghost afterwards and kept talking almost daily as he said he wanted us to stay friends and keep me close (we still talk 9 months after the break up although we had a phase where we didn't speak) but he keeps on saying we need to move on.

In his break up message he said that he was "Scared" , he said that he liked me and could still like me, but that he felt that there were too many obstacles (I assume he means the distance, and the fact that we are not ready for marriage because we're both students). That he didn't want to drag me for years without the certainty of marriage since he still needs 4 years or so before being able to get married. That he is scared my parents want me to marry someone from my country, and he is scared because so many men wanted me.

Some of the mistakes I've done as a woman when I think about the relationship retroactively:

- Once mentioned to him that my mom prefers me marrying someone from my country.
- Talked about other guys to make him jealous and get his attention (I'm immature i know). Turns out it made him insecure, i think.
- Told him about a guy who wanted to propose to me.

PS:
- We're both 24
- Both (religious) virgins waiting for marriage
- His religiosity often made him guilty over being overly sexually attracted to me
- It was an online relationship , we both live in Europe but in different countries.
- None of us has had a previous relationship.
- None of us dated or looked to date after the break up.

I don't want to give him up because I feel like we're soulmates (although I don't believe in the concept).

So me and my boyfriend got into a small tiff, not like a relationship ruining argument or anything but it kinda irritated me.

We visit his mom at least once a week which is fine, she's taking care of her brother's baby who is almost 2. He's a sweet little boy, beautiful. His parents are addicted to drugs though which is why he's with my boyfriend's mom.
Anyway my boyfriend wanted to wash his car while we were there (we live in an apartment with no where to wash, so he does this in his mom's yard) and on his way outside he asked if the baby wanted to come outside , and then said "she can watch him while I wash the car." By SHE he meant me.
He didn't even ask me if I wanted too or minded. And I don't mind kids, and I want one MAYBE 2 of my own one day, but I always get uncomfortable when around OTHER people's kids. I find them cute, but I don't like to be put in charge or left alone with them because I get nervous when they cry or what if they get hurt.

Such was the case. I just didn't feel comfortable watching him, and also I had brought my Nintendo switch with me because I had every intention of playing it while my boyfriend washed his car. (He usually spends 4 hours washing so I get kinda bored waiting on him). But because he volunteered me to watch the baby not only did I get no say, but also I had to spend my day off work babysitting.

He didn't understand why I was mad and replied "I thought you'd want too."

Am I the A-hole here?