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Maybe you ladies have your own perspective... but I am a guy... so I am looking at this from a guy's perspective. I feel like dating is totally worthless, and it seems like women want that "insta-chemistry"! I typically hear women say the following:

-If you want my attention, you need to say something interesting
-If you can't make me laugh, you're not good enough for me
-If you're not this height, aren't a sapiosexual (the whole list of requirements), I don't want to talk to you

In addition to that, if you are lucky enough to score a date, I have noticed that for a lot of guys, there's no 2nd date. Why? Perhaps everything went right, but there was no "insta-chemistry".

Or... I also noticed... when you approach a woman and you are kind, not trying to get into her pants and acting like a gentlemen, she seems bored with you and acts cold (I have seen this happen quite a few times and it has happened to me as well).

What's the point of dating these days?

Need some relationship guidance and advise..

I met this girl over the summer, everything was going well, met her family and she met mine shortly after.. everything was progressing really fast but felt right. right before I left for a month long vacation she said she wants to get to know me better and as more then just friends. Two days in a row while on vacation I didn't message her and she got distant from then. Once I got back I asked her officially out and she ended up saying she couldn't commit and didn't feel the connection and wanted to be friends - I initially said yes, but then went No Contact, but only for 2 weeks.

I started texting and tried to build up the attraction again - this went for about a month and I met up with her. However I brought up the relationship and what had happened for her to go cold (my mistake) As soon as I did she backed away more and said she needed time to be normal with me again.

A week after, I reached out and said let's just be friends and she agreed. She was still however distant and barely texting back - 1 response back every few days - I asked her why - she said she was really busy.

This week, I tried calling a few times in a row and texted her to meet up - she didn't pick up nor has she responded. Complete silence.

Background on Her:
-she's been super hurt in the past and runs away when things get serious
-she was in a seriously relationship 5 years ago and hasn't been with anyone since (3 years so far)
-She's protecting her self from getting hurt again (self-preservation)
-we only talked for a few months and weren't really boyfriend / girlfriend.
-I never kissed her
-she definitely had strong feelings for me before I left on vacation
-she likes attention and flirts a lot
-I think she might be playing the field a bit

What is my best approach for one day having a relationship with her?

1) Should I text her saying that I'll give her time and wait until she contacts me?
2) Should I go no contact on her for a month or two and then reach out?
3) Should I ask her what she wants and go with it?
4) Should I try to be friends so she can trust me without being scared and hopefully bring down that wall that she now has up.

I know she's worth it and will do anything right now to increase my chances to one day be with her. I know I made mistakes - this situation is just tricky and I really don't know what to do.

I've never been cold approached and never seen girls check me out or show blatant interest. Does that indicate I'm generally not very attractive? Honest answers please!!