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So I’ve made a promise to myself to stay away from f@ckboys just focus on college and work. This one guy I know a while has been asking me for a date I agreed cause I honestly thought he was a nice guy. Anyway it’s the night before the date, I noticed two blonde girls he constantly seems to like on Instagram and it’s annoyed me cause he reminds me of my ex. Always having a girl on ig as a backup plan. And I’m also upset because these girls are both 22 and 20. And I’m 28 so I feel kinda shitty that I’m getting older. This guy is 25 and I kinda felt that I shouldn’t have agreed to go out with him in the first place because of my age. I went through hell with my ex and I’m terrified of wasting anymore of my time,

So I felt for both our interests if I just cancel. I need somebody that’s probably not on social medial (impossible to find I know) and maybe a little bit older than me. And he probably should just stick to these girls. I’m not jealous of them like they’re stunning and I don’t seem to be his type. All the girls he follows are tall, blond and slim. And I’m brunette, small and am quite filled out on the bottom.

I tried to cancel and he wasn’t having any of it. So I really don’t want him paying for me on this date and I know he’ll try too. I don’t want him to think I’m using him for free drink or food. Should I try cancel again or just go on it?

This guy and I are a fantastic match as far as compatibility is concerned. We share the same sense of humour, have similar interests and on the same page in terms of morals and values. He is actually boyfriend material. Very caring and attentive also.

Date 1 was bowling. We had a great time. We were affectionate and the date ended with a kiss. Date 2 he took me on a jetboat ride and lunch afterwards, great time again.

In between these dates I wasn't really feeling that magic excitement to hurry up and see him again. I wasn't even feeling the need to text or talk everyday with him. It left me confused as to why. I did have a little bit of an attraction to him but it was just so so.

On the second date when he dropped me home, I invited him in. We got very sexy on the couch, straddling him, bit of grinding and massive make out session. I hadn't done anything like this with anyone since I broke up with my ex 4 mths ago so naturally I was getting a little excited at the thought another man was totally into me and desired me that way.

Because he wasn't actually setting me alight with his kisses I decided to sleep with him more so because I wanted to see if having sex would ignite something and whether afterwards I would feel some sort of bond or attachment. I didn't feel attachment. The sex itself was not bad.

Isn't it meant to be happy and exciting, your supposed to want to shag the shit out of that person every time you are together. Your supposed to want to chat with them daily and initiate the affection and flirting. Your supposed to want to hurry up and see them again. It was like that with my 2nd husband, I was giddy with excitement and it was like that with my ex, by the third date with my ex I was totally lost in him and wanted to be with him all the time. I compared all that to this lovely guy and it wasn't there... The actual spark with this guy has been a little lacklustre and my attitude has been just "meh". Why?