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There's this thing women say along the lines of "state your intentions," there's other ways it's said but it's basically about being up front about what you want.

But the thing is most of the time you don't want only one thing from them -- and I doubt women will only ever want one thing from guys as well.

Like, when I see a girl all I know is that she seems attractive. I know I want to talk to her, everything else is up in the air. Based on our interaction I might want sex or a date or be convinced I want a relationship or I might find they have a personality that deters me from wanting anything other than friendship with them, or I might want all or none of the above depending on what's available and it changes on the fly.

I can't tell you what I want -- not because I'm unsure, but because I want lots of things. I want to have a set of options and then make my decision. I don't see why that would be objectionable. Yet, it seems like girls take issue if you can't tell them exactly "this is what I want" and even if you can they will still take some issue if what you say you want isn't the same as what they want.

I think this is an especially strange thing to demand from someone if you yourself don't have a set thing you can state. But even if you do, I don't think that rendered, "not knowing what you want" to be a problem.

I'd love to have a relationship right now. I kind of have self esteem issue and I'm kind of bored these days. I amen't in college but I'll be attending next September (hopefully). I've never been in love before or had a serious girlfriend. I'd love to experience it but I'm sort of afraid that at my age, that isn't a good idea.

Or is it? Should I just focus on myself, my school and my friends instead? I also want to be sexually active and I'd much rather have sex with a girl I loved and trusted than to have drunk hookups at College parties. But if that is the better option, I guess I'll have to take it!

Alright, so what should I do? Am I too young for a relationship? Should I search for love or just avoid it? Thanks.

I’ve literally spoken to men, who are thinking/have attempted suicide because of how their small penis has ruined their life.
They feel less of a man, never have fulfilling relationship, feel like a burden, feel embarrassed, refrain from sex.

What do you think of this issue?