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Ok so I have three nieces. One is on my side and two is on my husbands. The one on my side is 17 years old and the one on his side is 15 and 13. So a few weeks ago there were fake social media accounts made not only saying ignorant stuff about me but my entire family using pics from my Facebook. The 15 year old has been at home for the past month because she has a broken leg and she has done stuff like this in the past. The 17 year old is always home because she dropped out of school. One of the accounts was posting mean stuff when the 15 year old was in surgery but the 17 year old was at home and 13 year old was at school. They both lie and of course the 17 year old said she didn’t do it and sent me a nasty hostile email message. My entire family is no longer speaking to her or her mom. Apparently the 15 year old said nasty shit about me on Facebook which the 17 year old screenshotted and all of a sudden got friend requested (but we have mutual friends and someone would’ve told me.) Her mom messaged me last week asking if I added her on Facebook and was messaging her about concert tickets (um no she’s been blocked). A few days ago I got a call from my nieces by laws dads phone number that isn’t in service and then her house phone (that works). The calls said nothing and hung up. I asked their mom and they said nobody was home at that time and they disconnected the phone. Today I got two phone calls (one that sounded like someone was talking in the background but couldn’t make out what it was and then it hung up and another one that had a girl saying go fuck yourself then hung up). They are home right now. And of course are denying it. I don’t know whose behind all of this and if I’m blaming the wrong niece. But a lot of mean things were said in between me and that niece (17 y/o) and her mom. I don’t know how that niece would’ve got the out of service phone number or their house number (the two nieces said they aren’t talking to the niece that’s being blamed).

My ex broke up with me twice two years ago. End of 2016. He was my first boyfriend and it was a horrible experience. He was an alcoholic and abuser. I could tell he was a very broken man but he tried to have fun and be happy.

When he deactivated his social media two years ago I knew in my gut something was wrong but I couldn’t find out until fast forward to current time when I moved back into my hometown. He drunk drove and almost killed someone and now he’s in jail. This happened a month after our breakup. I had no idea until I had a hunch to look him up.
Serves him right and he deserves to be in there but I also feel so bad for him because I know he doesn’t have any support and he’s alone. I don’t think many people know and I know his parents probably disowned him. It’s all assumptions though. I’m a spiritual person and although I don’t feel anything romantic- my heart breaks that he reached this point in life. Although he didn't give one crap about me I wish I could send an anonymous letter telling him to stay strong and god is making a plan for him.

Anytime I have a fight with past friends or anyone in general I always reach out and see how they are and 99% of the time we are cool. Reached out to ex best friends- ex acquaintances and more. No matter who. Would it be weird if I send an anonymous letter to him? Ugh but I may be considered a stalker and he may report me? I maybe his brother may find out and get mad? Is it over stepping the line? I really have a big heart which is bad. I reached this part in my life where I’m going to church and giving out to the community and etc.

So... I was going to go to her party because I'm her sister BUT I didn't want to go because I'm a NON drinker and she wants to go out drinking.
So I told her I can't go because we are moving that day, but turns out we are NOT moving that day, but the week after, so I told her aw well too bad because I already sold the tickets. So she BOUGHT me tickets and said I can pay her back. I said... OK.
THEN I told her I can't stay with her and her friends in the same hotel room so I booked a hotel room for 200$, I am not sure if it is refundable (because they will go drinking until who knows when and to clubs and bars where I don't want to go).
THEN she tells me that she doesn't want to take me back to the airport the next day because she wants to spend time with her friends, I guess she told me to get a UBER or taxi and we are going to be THREE hours from the airport where she bought my plane ticket... so I won't have a car. I'm shit out of luck if I went and she ditched me like that.

I guess if I refuse to go then I owe her 160 for the plane tickets and 200 for the hotel stay (or I can call the cancel the hotel and tell her I refuse to pay for the plane tickets but that's mean).

The thing is my sister is knows to ONLY care about her feelings and I must do what she says I should do or else she will be MAD and disown me and treat me like SHIT. She is the type to steal someone else's husband, cheat on him after having his kid, lie to the next guy that she wants to marry him and cheat on him and bad mouth all her exes... so what should I do here? My dad and brother disowns her because she is a manipulative, compulsive liar who is full of herself (narcissist) and they can't trust her for SHIT.

Yes go to her party? No don't go?

take note that I live 17 hours drive from her, I have my own full time gig as a stay at home mom (very little non-school age kids) and we are in the process of moving...