Search Results: emotional maturity

I've done a bit of psych research on emotional maturity in men and it appears the average age that men develop this maturity is 27. So, I thought I'd ask you guys when you felt you became emotionally mature (ie. still very interested in sex, but looking for a closer, more stable relationship than hookups or dating)?

Background on why I'm asking: I've been involved in this dysfunctional on/off relationship that has been fueled by sex for about 10 years and although the guy (who's 24) has made progress with emotional maturity, it's been a small amount. This weekend he told me that he couldn't get closer to me and refused to answer why. We both know a relationship isn't in the cards so I acknowledged that although we'll never get into an exclusive relationship it would still be nice if we got closer and he simply refused, saying "I can't do it. I just can't." I know he's not in any other relationship and we're already pretty close considering our long sordid history...so...very confusing and very frustrating...

GIRL 1

Classic literature student, 22, had 10 boyfriends and 5 sexual partners, loves romance and drama movies, plays volleyball and likes partying, has a lot of friends and suitors, single.

Looks: Somewhat short, beautiful face with perfect features, slim curvy body (hourglass figure) dark brown hair reaching her butt, light green eyes, clear perfect skin.

Uses only mascara and often switches between different colors of rouge. Loves dressing up and her style would be described as "elegant", raging from both modest, over cute to "slutty" on different occasions. 10 pairs of shoes for the season.

By men described as a 9 or a 10.

Mind: Well read, a philosophers mind, confident, polite, perfectionist to a degree, initiative, very neat, flirtatious, forgets no ill deed on her account, in fact forgets nothing, refuses to ever be wrong, puts emphasis on ladylike behavior and class, easily scared and disgusted, uses silent treatment and emotional blackmail effectively, considered very emotional, loves baby animals, knows how to get what she wants, likes to have fun and is not sure what she wants for her future just yet. Hates hicks and stupid people, independent, opinionated and only truthfully expresses herself with people she cares about, very ambitious and hardworking.

In a partner looks for devotion, understanding, smarts, confidence and a goal orientated man.

GIRL 2

Pharmacy student, 20, had no boyfriends, or sexual partners in the past, loves action and romance movies, drawing and cooking, plays chess often, has handful of really close friends, rest are acquaintances, single.

Looks: Medium height, cute face, large eyes, slim body, smaller breasts and wider hips (pear figure), light brown hair reaching the middle of her back, dark brown eyes, a some blemishes on skin.

Doesn't wear any make up daily keeping the grooming to basic hygiene body hair removal and chopstick, on special occasions, wears very little make up. Loves colors and clothes but avoids clothes that she deems "uncomfortable" (too tight, too short, too frilly, too open, materials that are not soft, oddly cut and for some reason, hates fake pockets).

Accused of having no sense of fashion, or trends.

By men described as a 5 or a 6.

Mind: A bookworm, nerdy, analytic and realistic mind, very shy around guys she finds attractive, rambles when uncomfortable, insecure about her looks, still watches anime and plays video games, goofy and cheerful, overly optimistic, tends to say odd, or politically incorrect things on purpose, considered weird, good actress, fake humility, deems most people stupid or evil in reality, ready to help everyone, naive for it, very protective of her family and friends, very picky and introverted, has an unusual nurturing/motherly instinct for her age, hates gossiping and pettiness, can get very lazy, avoids confrontation.

In a partner looks for love, protection, strength, kindness a dominant personality and maturity.