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I cheated on him with his best friend. Actually, it was an affair drawn out over a month's time with 3 encounters. I wasn't in love with his friend — it was more of an escape from the downward spiral my life was taking. I said that we should take it slow, but the pain he had caused me was forever ingrained in my brain. The affair started Valentine's Day when I went out to a bar with his friend and a couple of their friends. His friend started feeding me shots, followed me to the bathroom, and kissed me. This was someone who was best friends with my boyfriend, who I had confided in, who I had told my fears about the relationship to. We slept together a total of three times after that). I knew it was wrong, but that hour or two I spent with him made me forget about my problems. And as soon as I got in my car, the guilt and shame washed over me. I saw my boyfriend during this time period, but I refused to do anything sexual with him, saying I still needed time. The last time I saw his friend was on my boyfriend's birthday. I had brought my boyfriend out for a nice dinner, hung out with him, then went "home" when really I went to a party at his friend's house, where the rest of his friends were. I was talking to the friend in the kitchen when he went in for a drunken kiss. How do I rix this relationship?

Dakota met a very attractive, married man.
She has known him approximately 4-5 months.
When she first met Rick, he only wanted a one night stand. Dakota declined and realized this hurt his ego a bit. She didn't care, she was after respect.
They flirted very much after that, and at one point Rick massaged her shoulders before even knowing she was only seen as the one night stand.
Every time they saw each other, their eyes both lit up , and they smiled at one another.

Dakota has learned this man is unhappily married and even so, they still gave each other these desirable looks. Dakota never gave in though and Rick attempted many times.

Then Dakota realized, she was starting to like this man more than planned... so she spoke her honesty. "I think I'm falling for you, Rick."
He had said nothing to her in return until they saw one another again and Rick responded, "When you said you were starting to get feelings, that was when I started backing off, I don't mess with feelings."
Even so, he still smiled at her, still wanted to be close to her.

On NYE, Dakota ended up getting drunk and sleeping with a random guy in the basement, with whom Rick had heard the action as he had arrived at the house. His protective instincts kicked in immediately, and he was about to go in the basement, but Dakota came up just in time and met everyone at the table. To which Rick spoke "Are you cheating on me?" in a supposed joking manner.
Later in the night, they kissed. It wasn't forced. It was gentle, and Rick groaned a bit. They kissed a second time. After that, changes started appearing in both of them.
He still wanted that "one night stand."

Instead, she told him she'd just like him over for company one night and he arrived. She opened up further to him certain life events. The look on his face, almost looked painful, stricken with guilt. He left early, and rubbed the hair on Dakota's head she flinched, he smirked and did it again playfully.