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Imagine this situation. a man and a woman who are in a relationship got into an argument. he was visiting her house. She asked him to leave. He asked if he could get his stuff before leaving. She said to leave immediately and said she would call the police if he didn't leave immediately because he was trespassing. Because of this, he wasn't able to get his belongings and had to leave without his stuff.

I realize that, for a more extreme example, a girl under similar circumstances to a Western male incel, could actually still land a boyfriend with some ease. What I mean is if she is in a cycle of depression, lack of motivation, lack of self esteem, and loneliness with very few irl friends, this doesn't seem to dramatically deter attraction from men as far as I know. I. e. men still tend to accept this potential side of female humanity should they encounter such. It may rather make a man feel good that he can help heal a woman from such a rut.

Prettiness is a huge factor though, but the vast, vast majority of women are not considered visually unattractive by men, unlike the other way around. Unfortunately, modern men and women don't prioritize virtue though, if we even care much for that at all outside the idea of, "committing to your goals", which doesn't even mean you're a good or ethical person. So despite the fact that most, most women can find a sexual partner almost instantly, they don't have faith that they can have a committed and substantive relationship that will go somewhere.

Yet with all that said, underneath all of our societal lack of virtue at least in the West, men are still both culturally and biologically driven to serve, help, and forge their lives with women.

But could women be leaving men hanging here, despite all the progress? Do women really care about their sexual partners/spouses/S. O.'s/and potential partners? Or is it almost exclusively about self interest, judging how "hot" his "masculine and/or fun personality" is, and of course how hot he looks?

Is a gentle, kind heart enough for a woman in the way that it is enough for a man? Please vote and explain your thoughts in the comments.

Many years ago, i had a beautiful, loving, scaring and genuine girlfriend.
i can honestly say there is or was no one like her, girls like her are very rare.

Anyway, about 2 years into our relationship. i became emotionally unstable.
Try as i might i couldnt change. i hurt her, terribly. i never meant to, but i did.
i cheated on her with her own sister, i hit her, swar at her.

Eventually, she left (not that i blame her, i always wished her well). i never made contact with her for 7 years. Yesterday, i found out that she died from a very aggressive form of cancer, aged just 28 years old. She married her long term boyfriend before she died, she was with him for 7 years also.

I was and still am in shock. I still remember our first date, how she smelled so incredible, what she wore, and even what we talked about. that was 12 years ago.

I want to visit her grave, and tell her how sorry i am. She made me a better person by leaving, and she protected herself, i dont doubt that. I think if i could ask Emma now if i could visit her grave, she would say no, but i also think she would say "But if it would make you feel better"

I am now happily married to another woman, who reminds me of Emma in every way. Smart as hell, funny, unassuming, loving and devoted... im just a different man. Emma changed my life, and i will always be grateful.

What do i do?

First let me clarify, If he abused you, hit you, was an alcoholic or drug addict or someone who is lazy, not mabitions and doest wanna build a future then its obvious you made the right choice by ending it.

With that being said, according to statistics and real life as well, women are usually the ones ending the relationship, and i can't ignore the fact that some men who are dumped turn out to be actually pretty decent looks and personality wise and (later on) financially as well... and it makes me wonder if the woman made the right decision and if she ever regretted it ( i am sure she thought she had a good reason at the time ) .

This question applies only to those who actually believe they made a mistake by ending it, so if you are happy with your decision then this question does not apply to you.