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Instead of breaking up? PLEASE help me in this situation. My boyfriend is in the army and we are in a LDR. We were really close at first and texted every day. Then after some time, he grew distant. I realized something was wrong and I checked his dating profile (we met on a dating site) to find he is still an active paying member! When I confronted him and threatened to break up, he cried, denying so many times that he's not cheating. That he loves me and he will never find someone to replace me. He said he never goes in FB and uses the dating site to communicate with his gay friends as he went through a gay phase when he went through a relationship crisis. I responded I needed time to think.

That day when I asked him to call me, he seemed miserable and was pretty sure I was breaking up with him. He still denied cheating all the way. He is Catholic and he even swore in the name of Jesus and God that he isn't cheating on me. He also said I affected him at work, and he got yelled at by his commanding officer, lost some things and things have gotten stolen (but I think he is lying and guilt tripping me). He promised me he would delete his profile and change his description saying "in a relationship and looking for friends". He did neither. He is growing a lot more distant but he still has his profile up. Is he cheating on me? I don't have proof by the way.

PS: I told him to make our FB relationship status public but he said his family would be critical and nagging because he had wrong choices of women in the past that hurt him.

I'm in a long term relationship of 5 years and I live with my significant other. I love him very much, but after being in a relationship for so long sometimes I feel neglected and less important that his hobbies. Anyways, the other night, I went out with a bunch of friends and a few coworkers for happy hour and lasted until about 3 am which ended up with me very drunk. My significant other was away on a trip for one of his hobbies. My coworker made a move on me and kissed me. I know there's no excuse for me to allow this to happen but I honesly had no idea that my coworker had any sort of feelings for me and I was so drunk I barely knew what was going on (I know not an excuse). It didn't go any further than one kiss, and I feel so incredibly awful about it. I don't want to tell anyone because I don't want it to be real. I've never cheated or done anything like it before. So, my question is, do I tell my significant other or just live with the guilt? It all meant absolutely nothing to me and I absolutely know that I was in the wrong, but I don't want to ruin everything we've built over one stupid kiss. Has anyone else ever felt this way or been in a similar situation? What did you do? Please help!

tendencies- lack of remorse, guilt or shame. immaturity, pathological liars, manipulative, conning, deceptive. big ego. unfaithful and promiscuous. untruthful and insincere. poor judgement and failure to learn from past mistakes. lack of empathy. shallow/show little feelings. have big self worth and feel they are more important than others. narcissistic and arrogant. masters of deception. main purpose is to get what they want, regardless of how it will harm others. often lie and put on false faces.

how he acted- once said he was with his mom, but she asked me if I knew were he was. kept cheating on me a secret for a month. lied about the details and fabircated a story. if I ever brought up breaking up, he'd send pictures of us & say things like "u are the love of my life" "we're meant for each other". dumped me after cheating and a week later had sex with another girl. lied about drugs various times. admitted to using me for sex after we broke up. knew I cared about him and made it seem as if he had feelings for me when he didn't just so I would sleep with him. cheated on his current girlfriend w me 6 times. left me in a cold car while he went to a party and didn't feel badly about it. told me he didn't like certain people but to their face would act like they were his bff's. after break up said "Ill always love you" "we'll still end up together" to keep me waiting around. would text & go to lunch with other girls. found him laying with other girls at parties. would say 1 thing but act completley differently. thought highly of himself and had a hard time admiting he was wrong. people called him a robot because they said he had no feelings. was verbally manipulative, knew exactly what to say to get me to do what he wanted. drinks hard alcohol every night. I found a message on his phone saying "OMG I am so done with her" but he never brought up what was wrong to me, acted like everything was fine. list could go on and on...

We had deeper arguments than the usual this year. one involved him pushing me to the ground and resulting me using my fist. I don't agree w/ relationship violence, but it was horrible. We make up then we argue. I know, yeah we spend a lot of time together. Mostly with his friends. (Oh yea he sells weed, so yea). Last week started horrible. I used his phone and dm'ing other girls some were old some was recent. He has a tinder & I look through it to see what is said. Flirting & more flirting. I get upset & he gets mad at me. After I get off work, he says he never has cheated on me & would never. Hugs me in a tight hug, I cried because I felt like I still didn't believe him. That's when the whole dynamic of our relationship changed. He has came over my house and spent the night three days in a row (I believe it was guilt). Saturday he has avoided me. All day, all night. He reply to me when I would surpass at least three msgs and a phone call. Then it gets later and I go to his house. Basically, he left me crying all night. Then the next day he was gone from his house & I bugged him again. He invited me over w/ his friends, he embarrassed me w/ his "plugs" text that was a meme "of what your girlfriend thinks yur doing, (a pic of asses everywhere in some guys face) he calls him n leaves the room "that's funny u texted that..." I assumed he was at a strip club. I didn't care just the principle. I was right. We argued I left. I didn't text or call he calls me saying "wrong number" purposely. I didn't react so I didn't call back or text him. The next day he texts me "hey, wyd" I didn't reply or call. It upsets me to even think about it. He hasn't done anything either. What should I do?