There are two different forms of cheating:
Emotional and Physical
Emotional cheating - A bond between two people that mimics the closeness and emotional intimacy of a romantic relationship while never being physically consummated.
Physical cheating - The act of being sexually intimate with someone other than your spouse or significant other.
Although two different types of cheating exist, the pain is equally as devastating to any relationship because the trust barrier that was formed over a significant amount of time, has now become broken by an act of deceit.
Why do you cheat on your significant other, when you are in a committed monogamous relationship?
Meghan: I don't know why I cheat.....
It's not that I don't care about my significant other.
It's just that the feeling of being with someone else gives me a "high"
and "excitement" that I don't get when I am exclusive with one person.
David: Perhaps, it's the fact that I'm not mentally mature enough to handle a
committed relationship. I've tried my hardest to remain faithful throughout every
relationship I've had, but I always end up cheating on the person I thoroughly care for.
Kristal: I have voiced to my significant other time and time again, what I need from our
relationship. It's like talking to a brick wall! He never listens to me! Call me guilty,
but I went outside of our relationship to get my needs met.
Tom: I felt like she was cheating on me, so I decided to take the situation into my own hands,
and do so in revenge.
Will you confess to your significant other that you have cheated?
Meghan: Why would I want ruin my relationship by confessing to cheating? What he doesn't know will not hurt him.
David: I feel guilty about my actions, but the reciporations of them is far more than I can deal with.
I'll keep this hidden as long as possible.
Kristal: Eventually my guilt will subside. Why should I feel guilty when my boyfriend is the one in
the wrong for completely ignoring my needs?
Tom: It wasn't right what I did, but it sure feels that way. I'll confess to my cheating when she does so with what I have speculated.
Is there ever any real justification for betraying your significant other's trust?
Isn't wrong just wrong? When we try to formulate in our minds, why it's okay that we were deceitful we are making an excuse for our actions.
Excuses are never okay, no matter what one's story line is.
Trying to create a logical reason that makes sense to oneself of why their infidelity was okay, gives them more room to want to continue the cycle of cheating.
If someone doesn't feel what they did was wrong, why would they want to stop? After all, their reasons are justified.
What's done in the darkness will come to light.
People can try to hide their infidelity, but it's only a matter of time before their lies catch up with them. I believe the truth has a way of revealing itself over time. It may not be as quickly as one may hope it to be, but with time it will happen eventually.
The longer it takes for the lies to come out, is the more devastation and destruction it will cause the person who was betrayed.
Not only did their significant other cheat on them, but they hid their deceit for a significant amount of time.The issue is now, not only do they fear they may cheat again, but it has become a question of , if they can ever trust that person to tell the truth if they ever do cheat again.
It's hard to rebuild something that has no foundation.
In every relationship, the glue that holds it together is trust.
If that is non-existent then the relationship has no basis.
Cheating on someone has become extremely accessible over the years. There are websites such as: Ashleymadison that are created for those in marriages to actively have affairs with others in similar situations as themselves. The ability to cheat has now become a form of convenience, that is only a click away.
Ashleymadison, has over a million members, some of which pay for their membership.
Whoa...wait they're pretty much paying to live a secret life!
Although cheaters face a dilemma of whether they should confess to their wrong doings or not,
the person wrapped up in all of the turmoil and deceit may choose to not want to know because the reality of being hurt by someone you love is far too painful.
It's so much easier to not acknowledge what hurts us (even if we know it's going on), because dealing with the truth is something that can break our souls.
Who wants to walk around broken?
I don't want to.
But I will walk around broken because I know it's only a matter of time before I will
be whole again.
I do not want to fool myself into believing an illusion that is created by my mind,
because it's something I want to see.
I wanted to think this person is the world, but the reality of the situation is that he wasn't.
He lied to me.
I will acknowledge my pain.
I will acknowledge my hurt.
I will give myself time, in order to heal my wounds,
I will gather the pieces of my heart, and move on because
I know that I am deserving of more.
I deserve to be loved in the same way.
I deserve to be respected by someone coming forth with the truth.
I deserve to be with someone who doesn't justify their actions by making
it seem right when it isn't.
We cannot control what happens to us in life.
We can only look at each and every situation for what it is, and take from it.
Will you allow someone's betrayal to keep you down for your entire life? or will you eventually
rise above it?
I was created with wings.
I was created to soar.
I will fly instead of clipping my wings.
I will move on because I know that isn't the only door.
It's one thing to cheat.
It's another to continuously try to hide it.
You are creating an even bigger problem than what you started out with.
Shoutout to: @KaranSharma55 for requesting this topic.