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I have been with my significant other for almost 13 years, married two children. Three /four years ago he started messing with dating sites I forgave him took over a year to fully heal. Mean while always feeding my self lies and happiness.... I just realized that... I had no idea I was so lost until my neighbor messaged me.

Since we had moved he needed to tell me something he always wanted to. And mind you I had a attraction but never ever let that known vise versa. Put blinders on. We would talk about bullshit while our kids played outside together (he has one daughter, and a fiancé of 14 years.) So there was nothing there except oh the landlord still didn't fix this or whatever.

So he messages me to tell me he has loved me since the first time he met me. He has always wanted to tell me but didn't want to cause awkwardness. I respect him for that. Since just talking more and more, friends, understanding how much we are alike and our lovers should be together lol! Because they're identical. We always both have had friction in our relationship. It wasn't until we started talking more that we realized we want to be together feels so normal feels so right. He's ready, and so I am just scared of hurting my husband. But I need happiness to! And realized that we were just both playing the role to keep our family together. But want to make our family our own now. Any thoughts or suggestions? I mean no matter what it's going to be hard, but I know our children 4,5,6 all girls lol but they're like best friends. Will be happier because we will be, and tension in the household will no longer be there.

Thank you, and so sorry so long tried making it as short as possible.

www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a8881-my-reasons-for-support-traditional-gender-roles-wanting-a-more

Inspired by the above myTake, I am asking if you believe in traditional household roles.
And by "traditional household roles" I mean that woman= caregiver, cleaner, cook, etc etc while the man= breadwinner, "head of household"

What I don't understand is that a *LOT* of guys on this site complain about being expected to make money and be "manly" and how women are just after money and want to be taken care of, yet most of the men so far have agreed with the Take Owner that that's the role men are supposed to have and women are supposed to stay at home and cook and clean. It doesn't make sense.

They claim feminists want their cake and eat it too, but... that's exactly what they want. You can't have it both ways. You can't bitch about how unfair it is that men are expected to get off their asses and work and then demand that women don't chase their dreams, educate themselves, and pursue careers, and instead spend evenings changing diapers and making meatloaf. You simply can't have both.

That Take p much proves how misogynistic this site is. ******Note: I'm not saying that wanting a traditional household is misogynistic, but believing that women inherently belong in the kitchen IS.******

And to continue my rant, how is it feministic to believe that women should be able to pursue careers? Many male users claim that the stupid fems are the ones opposing this. Maybe in 1952 feminism was about getting women out of the kitchen and into college but now, that's definitely not feminism. I thought we'd progressed past that by now.
One user said the "stupid bitches are ruining everything. " hmm.

So fucking done.
You're all single for a reason.
Rant over.

Preface: My partner and i have always been hardworking full-time people so I have not noticed much of this earlier on. I first moved in with my partner and his father for over a year now and my partner and i have just had a child who is now 4 months. Which obviously means I have been a stay at home mum. Anyway, in the 3 months of the 4 month duration my partners father had trouble with work and is now unemployed so he now stays at home with myself and the child.

The point is. And I fully respect my father in law to be but oh my fck he is fcking lazy! He does not do any chores whatsoever and i have been cleaning for my partner and him for the 3 months i have been capable of moving about (had a cesarean). All he does is sit, watch TV, read, play with my son for a few minutes, sleep, eat ffs. This is everydamnday. I am fed up with it. Does not clean after himself. Is this appropriate for me to be cleaning up after him, cooking, doing his laundry etc etc? Is this also a role of a stay at home mum to do everything for him? I understand doing these things to a certain degree although he does not do anything. I am not exaggerating. I need opinions as I will snap eventually. We are a regular Australian family with no beliefs in our lives (such as how women do all for men). What do you think?