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This guy and I are a fantastic match as far as compatibility is concerned. We share the same sense of humour, have similar interests and on the same page in terms of morals and values. He is actually boyfriend material. Very caring and attentive also.

Date 1 was bowling. We had a great time. We were affectionate and the date ended with a kiss. Date 2 he took me on a jetboat ride and lunch afterwards, great time again.

In between these dates I wasn't really feeling that magic excitement to hurry up and see him again. I wasn't even feeling the need to text or talk everyday with him. It left me confused as to why. I did have a little bit of an attraction to him but it was just so so.

On the second date when he dropped me home, I invited him in. We got very sexy on the couch, straddling him, bit of grinding and massive make out session. I hadn't done anything like this with anyone since I broke up with my ex 4 mths ago so naturally I was getting a little excited at the thought another man was totally into me and desired me that way.

Because he wasn't actually setting me alight with his kisses I decided to sleep with him more so because I wanted to see if having sex would ignite something and whether afterwards I would feel some sort of bond or attachment. I didn't feel attachment. The sex itself was not bad.

Isn't it meant to be happy and exciting, your supposed to want to shag the shit out of that person every time you are together. Your supposed to want to chat with them daily and initiate the affection and flirting. Your supposed to want to hurry up and see them again. It was like that with my 2nd husband, I was giddy with excitement and it was like that with my ex, by the third date with my ex I was totally lost in him and wanted to be with him all the time. I compared all that to this lovely guy and it wasn't there... The actual spark with this guy has been a little lacklustre and my attitude has been just "meh". Why?

My janitor.. He likes to kinda.. Stalk me I guess..
I'm confused about the type of relationship we have together between boyfriend or friends with benefits.. But he does that; he investigated my cars plate secretly, to know to who belongs that Mercedes (belongs to an ex or a boyfriend for example)
-it's funny how I simply told him that o didn't want him to look at the kitchen cz it was messy and he went into a mode where he HAD to see this! Like you know, those people who want to find things about you, he desperately wanted to see the mess in the kitchen!! He was determined..
-I once taped the curtains, JUST ONCE because I needed to cover up the windows to do something personal and I knew he would check from outside (I live on the 3rd floor) and ask me about it.. Sure enough he texted me and asked me about "what's in your window? " lol.. I knew it..
-he doesn't have fb, but really badly wanted "my Nick name" on fb to see it, I assume to stalk it.. I just found it weird since he doesn't have fb.. He was insisting...
-he seemed to want to know A LOT about my private life, AND MY EX..
-his brother came to visits him and asked me if I could do an arrangements marriage for $$ and my janitor got really mad at his brother (like jealous) (by the way I refused) .. but it's not the only time he got jealous, when a man came to install the fire alarm and I was wearing small shirts his attitude changed towards the fire alarm guy... He's just the jealous type I guess.. But what do you guys think if this.. ? Good or bad signs?