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Be honest, when you come across someone who is confident do you stay or walk away? Does it intimidate you? If someone is attractive and they’re just overall confident meaning they believe in themselves, they never look down on themselves, they’re nice to others and usually smiling, etc, does that make you wanna hang out with them or walk away from them cause they’re intimidating?
Im having a hard time distinguishing if this is my case. My friend just confirmed I’m attractive and my personality is great so I’m intimidating. I was like wow this is something I’ve been questioning especially lately because I wonder why people don’t approach me. I’m nice, yes I’m attractive, but I’m nice and friendly, when you meet me I’m positive and have manners, I’m funny and love to laugh, so I’m like wth is the problem? Am I “perfect” in their eyes and they just can’t hang out with someone like that? I understand if I did something wrong or I had a mean personality, but I know none of that is true. Even though I’m nice, I’ll still stand up for myself and maybe it comes off as bitchy but that’s when you asked for it. Other than that, I’m friendly.

Context:
Throughout my entire childhood my father was always the dominant figure in my household. It wasn't aggressive or violent, he just laid down the law and everyone followed it - he was in charge - no question. He would enforce said rules by spanking my sister, myself, and even my mother, more or less depending on the offense - from questioning his authority, to breaking a lamp, to doing the laundry badly (more for my mother), to getting bad grades (more for my sister and I).

As a child it never seemed odd to me, I just assumed that was just the way families were. Seeing my mother spanked by my father in front of my sister and I the same way he spanked us just didn't affect me all that much. A friend I invited over once in around 6th Grade was the one who broke it to me that most families don't do it that way.

I would like to make it quite clear my family wasn't abusive. Not only are my parents still together and love each other, but my father is a wonderful man and I hold nothing against him. It was just our family dynamic. I haven't really had a platform to ask exactly how common this was before now, so I figured this was my chance.

Question:
So did your father have the dominant role in your household as a child? To what degree? If not, which parent took charge, and how? Were you and your siblings spanked, and if so, was your less dominant parent also spanked?