This is not a sarcastic jab. I’m actually being very serious. Once upon a time here on GaG I would’ve given guys a tough-love sermon, but even I have had to re-examine things and even re-examine myself over the last few years. I guess it’s part of my Re-education place in life right now, where I am questioning things I thought I always knew and taking a second look at life and the world, which at some point I will also post a Take about.
Some women here think they can give you a tough-love-from-a-woman talk about getting over your “bitterness,” but ultimately it doesn’t work because they’re not really giving you any solid advice, they’re giving you their idea of advice with side punches, and they have no understanding of what you’re feeling as a guy. Even some of these guys want to treat you like you're a baby not worth listening to. I’m not here to do that.
“You’re just bitter/You must’ve been rejected”...
Honestly, hearing women constantly saying these things to men feels so completely tired, cliche, and excessively overused. And they do it to disrespect you on purpose, because they’re trying to discount anything you’re talking about concerning women as nothing anyone should hear or take seriously because it must mean “you’ve been hurt” or got burned by some female. And maybe you did or didn’t. Either way, your hurt, frustration, etc. is not always wrong. And if you really have been hurt and women are acknowledging it, they're still trying to pig-headedly brush you off with a negative Get-over-it approach, what they would never do to another woman who feels hurt or disappointed by men.
Women’s accusations of a guy being hurt or rejected are also simple-minded because a fact of the matter is that you also have many men voicing their thoughts and feelings about women because they are actually frustrated while they're already in a relationship, and that’s why they’re voicing them because they feel upset by things women do, think, etc.
So when women are accusing some guy of being hurt, rejected, unable to get sex, etc. they’re also doing it because they want it to appear as if what men are saying about women is the result of being single and an inability to have sex, trying to make it - again - as a reason why nobody should listen to you, when many other times men's frustrations with women come from their own challenges with them in a present relationship or marriage or having exited one. I know in my own experience, I've had moments where I was most angry with women while in a relationship as opposed to times of singleness.
Anger is a normal part of life…
Sometimes a guy really is angry and bitter with women or hurt by them. And honestly? That’s okay. Anger and bitterness is a part of life, that’s just the way it is. And it isn’t always necessarily bad, these are still human emotions. They only become bad if you act on them violently or get fanatical in how you let it consume you, or when you try to express them but people just judge you for it, leading you to feel even angrier and withdrawn.
However, there is a such thing as being silently and soundly angry without being some potential Elliot Rogers or hopeless male who goes on a shooting rampage or commits suicide. And contrary to how women and the media want to depict a "bitter" or rejected man, the vast majority do not and will not ever do those kinds of things as opposed to the couple hundred that have. Most men like this still go on to suffer in silence in their lives until the tides change or someone finally gave them an ear and encouragement, like people more often do for women.
You actually can be angry with women for all the right reasons....
If you feel that women have disappointed you, injured you in some way, or even given you some kind of anxiety, you work through it. And you have a right to. Sometimes your reasons for being angry may not really be valid, but you realize that later. Sometimes you are angry at the moment because you feel burned or discarded, and maybe that girl really was a serious asshole about it.
And then other times you are not wrong for how you feel about women by any means. Sometimes you really can have a very valid reason for not having the greatest opinions of them. And to be honest there is plenty about women that a man can be justifiably angry about. They’re not perfect and still do plenty of ridiculous, pigheaded, immature, or just downright wrong and serpentine things that should not be excused or smoothed over. And in these instances you have every right to dislike it or even voice it. Just be prepared for their opposition and arguments against you and know that even this is part of it.
People - but especially women - want to disregard the fact that men too have bad experiences with women, have truly been hurt and disrespected in a relationship, or have just been downright used, mistreated, or gypped by women. And this is because women do have a narcissistic side of their minds that refuses to acknowledge any of it unless they can blame the guy for it, be sarcastic about it, or will acknowledge it but only if they can point out how "men are the same way," or if they actually praise women for being malevolently intelligent about how they wronged a guy.
Sometimes you just need to step back…
You can use up a lot of mental and inner energy being too focused on women believe it or not, and there are times when women themselves can even make you feel exhausted and depleted. So it’s necessary to step back now and then and choose not to be interested in women or sex for awhile, but not like MGTOW or any of these other ridiculous pop-cult 2000s groups out there, sub-Reddit "RedPill" or even this “incel” thing people are always talking about nowadays. You just simply need to take a break and regroup for awhile while you focus on yourself.
Even for me right now I’m not sure how I feel about relationships or even marriage any time soon. And it’s not even rooted in any kind of hopelessness or anger. It's about being careful, observing women's behavior, and even protecting myself. For me I am not sure if I can tolerate or reconcile with certain mindsets and attitudes women tend to have, at least not right now at this time in my life. And after painful places I’ve been over the years and people I’ve experienced, the last thing I need is a woman who will be any kind of toxic burden for me.
Women want to control how you feel…
Anger and frustration are normal moments and normal feelings in life, and it’s okay to have them, but women do want to narcississticly control you by telling you you’re pathetic or hate women for being angry or even talking about it. They want to shut you up with their ridicule, sarcasm, and double standards because they don’t want to hear what you’re saying or feeling and would rather dismiss you as whiny. Are some guys’ rants about women whiny? Sure. But there are also plenty of other times when a guy is soberly vocalizing real issues with women that women do need to hear as much as they want us to hear them talking about their problems with men.
Women say men shouldn’t be pressured to keep their feelings in and should be able to open up, but they want to pick and choose what they think is okay for you to be vocal about. It’s okay to talk about anything giving you anxiety or frustration, it’s just not okay for it to ever be about something women are doing or attitudes they’re having that are giving you any kind of grief, frustration, or depressed feelings.
A sad fact of the matter is that although women say men need to talk about how they feel, they don't really believe in it. Women are not up to the challenge of hearing men pour themselves out. In fact I've heard more than a few women say they think a guy is being overly sensitive for doing it, or women actually admit they can't deal with it. And they can't. They can't handle when men are voicing their issues and especially when it's about the opposite sex and what they wish women would stop doing. It's only supposed to be okay if women can talk about what they don't like that men are doing.
But in order to break this perpetual issue, men must keep expressing themselves and being honest about their frustrations or pains. Eventually the other side will get it.
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