Before I start, this is a lengthy MyTake so if you have no intentions on reading this, then don't even bother commenting. You need to read this.
So, a topic which sometimes gets heated on this website is the grooming gang crisis in the UK. However, some people who get heated about this issue are incredibly biased and one-sided, as to the identity the give the attackers and the identity the give the victims. And I feel like only one side of the picture is being painted and that isn't fair. So I'm writing this take, to tell you what you might not know about this specific issue.
The grooming gangs in Rotherham. Here we go. What might you not know?
A countless number of times I have heard people say things along the lines of:
"Pakistani men are raping white girls"
"Pakistani grooming gangs"
"It isn't safe to be a white girl"
These people talk as if Pakistani men are the only perpetrators and white girls are the only victims. However, this is not the case. So let's take a look at the victims first:
White girls were victims. British Asian girls were victims. Black girls were victims.
The "Jay Report" (JR) reported that: "most of the victims in the cases we sampled were white British children" which was true, the majority of the victims were white British children, especially at the time the JR came to that conclusion.
But many came to their own conclusion that: "Pakistani men preying on young white girls" and only young white girls.
However, just one week after the JR was reported, three British Asian girls contacted a local charity called Islam Rotherham, claiming that they had also suffered abuse. The groomers would wait outside of their schools, and demand sexual favours, and abuse these girls with sexual acts including rape, in return for so-called gifts they had given the girls.
These groomers would sexually assault - including rape - these British Asian girls, and whilst the groomers were committing those sick crimes, they would photograph the young girls as they were doing so and threaten to publish the pictures to the girls "fathers, brothers, and in the mosques" if the girls went to the police, consequently, the girls would not go to the police and report the abuse they suffered. They suffered alone just like the white girls, for a long time.
And very similar things happened to the white girls and the black girls who were victims of these crimes. The way the black girls, the white girls, the Asian girls, were victims of these crimes were different in which the ways they were threatened, but however they were threatened and lured- we can't ignore that the same crime happened to these girls.
So tell me why is it that a lot of people, particularly people on G@G, are only looking at the victims who happen to be white? When British Asian and black girls were also victims of these crimes? You can use the excuse "the majority of the victims were white girls" that is true, nobody is disputing that. But that doesn't mean we ignore the minorities which also suffer the abuse because they still victims.
Now let's look at the criminals.
The gang consisted of men from a predominately Pakistani background. Kurdish and Kosovan men were also apart of these gangs. So tell me why is nobody looking at men from those backgrounds?
When it came down to convictions, in the end, 21 people were convicted. 19 men, and 2 women. Yes, two women were involved with these sick gangs as well. So why aren't people looking at the women involved in these crimes?
And since people on this website have loved to mention the ethnicity of the men involved in these crimes let me tell you, the ethnicity of the women involved in these crimes. They were white women. Yes, white women were involved in grooming young white, black and Asian girls.
Now you'll probably be questioning: "How?" Well, let me tell you.
One woman was an MP, aged 58, Karen Mcgregor, a prominent campaigner, and she would befriend these young girls. She was said to behave like "a second mother" towards them to begin with, and gain their trust.
Once she gained their trust, along with the help of the second woman (Shelley Davies) groomer aged 40, the two groomers would lure the victims back to their house in which they both shared and force the victims into sexual relations with the men, who hung around the house.
One victim claimed that the house in which the women lured her to was as welcoming as the house in Hansel and Gretel, but quickly changed when she was forced into committing sexual acts she did not want to commit.
The victim thought of the Mcgregor as a second mother to her, she bought the girl food, clothes, and listened to this girl's problems. But this young girl soon was assaulted whilst she was drunk, passed out, and she awoke to find herself being sexually assaulted.
Mcgregor told the young girls that having sexual relations with various men who entered the house was the girls' way of "earning their keep."
Not only that, but Mcgregor went as far as creating a children's charity called "KinKids" which was masked to look like a charity which helped children from problematic backgrounds.
Thankfully, both of these women were found guilty of:
"False imprisonment, conspiracy to procure prostitutes"
Mcgregor got a 13-year sentence and Davies got an 18-month sentence with suspension.
Why Am I Telling You This?
To ensure another side of the story is heard. We all know Pakistani men groomed white girls and made disgusting sick threats to them, and put these poor girls through hell, and what many people fail to acknowledge is what I've mentioned above.
One girl on this website who is also from the UK told me that as a white girl she does not feel safe with Pakistani men on the streets because of these grooming gangs.
Well my question is if she's going to assume that a Pakistani man in the street is a groomer and apart of a grooming gang even though he could be a doctor, a teacher, a businessman but because he's Pakistani she will just automatically assume he's a groomer, because men who happened to be Pakistani were apart of a grooming gang, the next time a white woman starts talking to me at the bus stop should I assume she's trying to lure me to her house and force me to commit sexual acts because she's white and women who happened to be white were apart of a grooming gang and did such things?
Anyone with half a brain cell would tell me: "No, Spidey, that's stupid. You're stereotyping white women, and that's actually really racist."
And I'd agree. I would never assume that.
So why does that girl feel unsafe because she sees a Pakistani man in the street? He could be a teacher. A lawyer. It could be my father walking past, but because he's Pakistani she'd assume he's a groomer? Isn't that racist? Isn't that stereotyping Pakistani men?
The answer is yes.
The way people make these crimes sound like is, a bunch of Pakistani men emerge from the shadows the minute a white girl walks past and they force her into their car and rape her because she is a white girl.
It didn't happen like that.
So, how, most likely did they happen?
(I'm not saying the crimes happened exactly like this, but I'm guessing, this is how they most likely happened.)
But the truth is the crimes that happen are systematic and organised. These groomers, prey on who is vulnerable. They see who's from a problemed family, whose parents aren't looking out for them, and a woman goes to act as a mother figure the poor girls are longing for. And over time the girl begins to trust the woman. Then is invited back to the woman's house. At first, it seems all loving and caring, but within the blink of an eye, it gets dark. When the girls are forced into committing sexual acts for men, to "earn their keep" and are threatened with death, being burned alive, or even threatening the girls' mothers if the poor girl dare breathes a word to anyone about it. So the poor girl stays silent.
That is what most likely happened, with the exception of some Asian girls.
Because a lot of Asian girls these men abused were daughters of family friends and even members of the family. Now because these men were family or family friends the girl already trusted them. And when the family is out or away or something and the girl and the groomer are alone, that is when it got dark. And that is when the groomer assaults the poor girl, forces her to commit sexual acts - including rape - which she does not want to do. And the groomer(s) take a few pictures. And then because in Asian culture, family honour can be a thing, the groomers threaten the girl to show the pictures to the family and mosque if she tells the police. The girl is worried about family honour. So the poor girl stays silent.
Have you noticed the common denominators in both these scenarios? No matter whether the girl is black, white or Asian it ends up getting dark, she ends up being abused and ends up staying silent. Regardless of race, they are all victims, and regardless of race anyone involved in making these girls victims of such crimes, is a criminal and a groomer.
So... Did you know any of that? Did you learn something new? Did it shock you?
And before I wrap this up, I just want to say these young girls may be victims, but they may as well be made of iron. Because to deal with all that, they are strong. And I applaud them for speaking out about their abuse because nobody should stay silent about it, it's not something anyone should keep to themselves. Them speaking out, was the first step to getting these sick disgusting, vile groomers behind bars, and I am so glad today the Rotherham grooming gang is stuck behind bars because it's where they belong.
And can I just say I recently learned all this about the Rotherham grooming gang myself? Someone said something pretty racist to me on this website, I won't repeat it because it's disgusting, but that pushed me to look into this. And that's when I found out Asian and black girls were also victims of the gang. That's when I found out 2 white women were apart of the grooming gang as well.
That's when I thought: "why is nobody mentioning any of this?"
And that led to me, writing this MyTake.
Another lengthy one, I know but I felt like it needed to be written. I hope you learned something, and I hoped this information really opened your eyes.
Thank you for reading.