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tl;dr- considering keeping in contact with an ex im still in love with. broke up last December, talked once every month since then.

I broke up with my ex a few days before Christmas last year. Basically I'm still crazy about him but I had reasons to end the relationship (he was a good partner, he did everything to try and make it work- it's my seriously ugly personal issues). Since we broke up I've just been obsessing about it but I never showed. He sent a long message on new year's day greeting me and telling me he still loves me. I replied and that convo didn't last long. About last week of January, he called me and we talked for a while. After that call, he sent a lot of messages asking if we could still make it work. I love him a lot but I was so sure that getting back together isn't the right thing to do so I stuck with my decision. I blocked him on Facebook after that because it became harder for me to stop thinking about him. I'd visit his profile a lot. Just two days ago he sent messages on Instagram but he unsent them. Then last night he called and we talked for a few hours. It was a really nice talk and I felt instantly better. It included saying I could call him anytime I need someone to talk to. He said he's still waiting and hoping for something between us. He understands why I ended things with him which I didn't expect because he really didn't do anything for me to act that way.

Anywaynot a day goes by that I don't think about him and I miss him a lot so I've thought about considering calling him every now and then. Would that be unhealthy? I didn't say anything to him about getting back together. We just agreed that we can call each other anytime we want, and I do want to. I just dont know what's right or wrong about this anymore.

So in the beginning my ex put a lot of effort into the relationship.. here are some of the things that happened:
- he would text me when he's there or home.
-he would literally stare at me and break no eye contact hand under chin etc.
- told me he loved me on the third date (2 months of talking and knowing each other)
-video called every other day for a few hours
-talked about the future and asked questions i dont know the answers too since it was new. (Once he even said oh i know my kid is not gonna be (something that was a bit important to me) )
-the parents / mom were really excited about the relationship that i got their house key..
-he gave me a care package
-wanted me to tag him in pictures whenever i would post something about us
- never came to see me after doing something and was seconds away from my place
-bought my family and I an expensive item
-during the breakup he told me to keep the shirt and wipe my tears and makeup off of it and you can tell he felt better and relieved about the situation.
-Blocked me on every social media.
-Same week i found out he was on tinder
-would sleep for 12+ hours and leave me hanging
-i would write out these reassuring messages and asked if i could keep doing those messages.
-i told him im not big on eating something and the first meal we had was something im not a huge fan of.
-didnt even cry when his pet died, he's known for cutting people out of his life and coming and go as he pleases.
We broke up because him and his family were doing an unhealthy habit that i asked if they could compromise and not have them do it literally in my face.. they did better until it went back to square one and brought up again to him.