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she's always complimenting everything and almost never has a criticism. So you can't tell if she likes something or is just saying it to please people.

With her friends and stranger she has a different tone. Example, "heyyyyyyyyyy girllllll how are you" it's an extra level of excitement with everyone. Feels like she is almost never laid back.

And with my family she is very nice to them but she won't start conversations usually, unless its shallow topics like discussing movies and tv shows. My parents admit to me that her presence is not felt and they feel she doesn't have a personality at all.

Then when I'm with her family I'm always myself and I dont put on an act, so she often asks me "hey are you ok?" As if being quiet sometimes and laid back means I'm not OK.

In business we write a MOU to communicate expectations clearly. So much of the problems in these often perplexing and confoudning times of relationships evolves around expectations, trust, and breaking assumed contract. If there is a stated position and even better... consequences, it would seem to resolve a lot of matters. Here's an example for which you can improve I'm sure. It doesn't have to be legal.

There are so many flavors of relationship now, it's baffling.

Intention of Relationship: Committed 2 people __ swingers __ Open MFM ___, FMF ___ Poly ___
Hookup only _____ friends with benefits _______ # of parties intended 1, 2, 3, X
[im sure there are more options here]

Termination of relationship: Provided in writing may be accompanied by phone call.

Ghosting Permitted: Y / N
Blocking Permitted: Y / N for periods of time

Therapy: Therapy has been discussed as a potential method of resolving conflicts: Y / N

Bond: Each will float a $100 bond to be held in escrow. Violation of contract prior to disbanding relationship results in forfeiture of bond. In event one party has mis represented their position, they forfeit their bond.

Signed: Him: ____________ Date: _________ Her: _______________ Date: _______

I am not saying have a lawyer draw this up, that it can't be changed or someone change their mind, nor is it legally binding. I'm saying... communicate and be honest. Other topics like... sex before marriage, living together and such seem appropriate.