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So, I reached a level with a friend.

We're both in open relationships devoted openly to specific others.

He's best friends with my fiance who approves of my gallivanting, but doesn't want to know details (fwb's gf is same way).

Normally we would be open about this stuff, known the guy 4 years. But this time he wanted to keep it a secret though at first if I wanted to I was free to mention it to his gf.

Admitted years ago when my man was moving out (roommates) he took his phone & looked frantically for pics of me, found a sexy one and you know.

I'm questioning his behavior, it's odd for fwb's. This in no way was a relationship to me, but we kissed, he admitted he only does such w/his gf he's very openly in love with always texting.

BUT, we've barebacked while on my menses (also intimate), he wouldn't gtfo of the bathroom when I was cleaning up him ear to ear, and expressed unhappiness of me possibly getting thinner.

aren't there just some friend boundaries you dont cross?

Then, he's been a little cold since but I must say I was all business, does his confusing behavior betray a hurt friend or someone unsure of boundaries?

Personally I dont understand why everyone else can be public but me, I'm way cute and not to be shallow just I worked very hard at looking great and am considered at leaaaast a 9, and he has wanted to ask for years unaware of my also open relationship. I know that also might make him insecure, he was worried about his performance even before it occurred.

He's acting weird, what the hell do I think? This isn't a unique situation for either so why is he so inconsistent?