Okay guys so here's what's up. I see a lot of people bothered by their significant other or they are hiding things from their significant other because they are afraid of what will happen if their significant other finds out.
1) How can the problem be fixed if he is not aware that there is one?
Guys, let's say that your girlfriend (or boyfriend) goes out with their guy friend every Friday night. She swears to you he's just a friend. But this pisses you off and makes you feel angry and hurt. You get angry with her for doing this and keeping on doing this. How can she fix this, if you don't tell her that it bothers you? She's got no idea hat it bothers you unless you tell her so she can't fix it until you do tell her.
Girls, imagine that your boyfriend (or girlfriend) asks you for a threesome. It makes you feel desperately hurt, like you aren't enough. Do you close off and you don't tell him you're hurt and why. So this distance grows between you and pretty soon you're left wondering why you guys broke up. Well, because you didn't communicate with him.
2) Be open and honest, if you aren't then she/he will never know what is really going on.
You've just had a horrible day at work or school. You're stressing out. You've lost your best friend. You S.O asks you how your day was. You don't want to trouble them with your baggage so you say "it was fine." This is bad! You have to communicate how you really truly feel. He cannot help you if you do not tell him. Plus, telling him honestly helps bring you two together and ensures there are 0 secrets.
3) So everything is going great, you have your SO and they are messaging you 24/7 and life is perfect. But then BOOM.
All of a sudden they stop cold turkey. You are so worried that you said something to push them away. "Oh my god, I should not have told him/her that." "I'm crowding them, aren't I?" "Oh gosh are they okay? Are they going to leave me?" Our minds tend to go into hyper active mode when this happens (most of us anyways). Well you either decide "okay when he messages me, since he is waiting so long to reply, I will ignore him for a while to get him back." Or "I won't tell them how them not messaging me that often makes me feel because I don't want to crowd them." These are both BAD!
The revenge mind set guarantees to push you further away from your SO. It creates distance and anger and cold heartedness. The "I won't do this to prevent them from doing this" mind set also is not right! You need to tell them how you feel! You can even just ask them "hey have I don't something to push you away?" Them proceed to tell them why you feel that he is becoming distant. Be respectful and unaccusimg. "I feel that you are becoming distant with me because ever since last week you have not been texting me or talking with me as much. Have I done something? If like to please know if so so that I can fix it <3" he will surely respond to this and tell you what is going on. He could just be busy, or he could just have done something or decided something he didn't want to tell you about before. Communication about your feelings is CRUCIAL and VITAL to ALL relationships.
Make sure you are using open and honest communication back and forth. This ensures trust and intimacy as well. Do not be scared! It strengthens relationships.
P.S. It is only 1:13 am currently and am a little out of it so I apploagoze for any spelling errors. I hope that you'll take this all into consideration. Post of you need advice! Or message me :)
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