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My family is riddled with mental illness, addiction, narcissism, and abuse. Nobody is genuine, everyone lies, cheats, and steal. Everyone is out for themselves, every time someone is nice they're most likely trying to get something out of you. The only genuine people I actually trust are 2 of my cousins and my 16 year old nephew.

As the youngest sibling, I was treated as everyone's power high. My brother used to beat the shit out of me, my sister would call me awful things, I was viciously bullied in school by students and teachers, and my mother is verbally and sometimes physically abusive and neglectful.

I kept it bottled up because I didn't want to be yelled at more, but the weight of it all was getting too much. After days of chain smoking I finally opened up to my mother, and she did exactly what I feared.

She flexed your struggles, one-upped my depression, compared me to others, used my guilt as a weapon, put me down, and made it all about her. She even said "You will NEVER feel as depressed as I do, and shame on you for putting that on me."

This is the reason my siblings turned to hard drugs, and I turned to food, alcohol, and cigarettes for comfort. I am now fully convinced that my mom is the main source of my depression. My family is a sinking ship, and if I don't abandon it I'll just sink with it.


I have a job and hopefully next year I'll be able to get my driver's license, buy a car and rent my own place. Once it happens, I'm disappearing. I'll move out in the middle of the night, and I'll only leave a long note of things I wanted to open up about to my mother but never could do it in person. I'm not telling her where I'm living and getting a new phone so she can't call me, only contact me through messenger. I also want to start seeing a therapist for the help I've been needing.

i am frugal with myself and with loved ones sometimes, but will give from what I have to those down or needy. Example, I'd give to a girlfriend who was unemployed such as buy food, dinner, help her find work, fix her car... I was making good money and had skills and had plenty to share, so I did... but never paid her rent or medical bills. At same time, I'd give to others who aren't family. I'll skimp on me... and give to others. In one case I gave a family of seven people to buy a car. They were in the pits and kids were suffering. It was awful to see but also hard to help help people and I gave up. One would think govt helps... it is not very effective nor are the church safety nets in this case. Situation was... father was injured and couln't work, did not get govt assistance at that point, as far as I could see.

Beyond that, I'll hold off buying a new coat and buy cheap jeans that look ok, and treat someone down or needy extemely graciously. Might buy something really nice for myself, like expensive bicycle or such, but often buy used, buy used cars... why waste $ on cars... I just value they work well. I'll splurge on vacations. I've bought my current girlfriend and kids a fun ride with dolphins for example, but I'll hesistate and skimp to get a new vaccum and bought an old used car that took long time to fix... but saved thousands.

Food... I'll get decent food, but try to save $ as well. Not fast food, just good stuff, but lower cost.

Those are tendencies.

Would it drive you nuts to have a partner like that would you value the frugalness if it impacted how I see myself and how you feel? Are others like this or is it me? Noone else in my family is like this and I know noone else similar.

Hello everyone! I'm 18 and waiting in dep for the air force. I'm currently debating on getting a new car. My car is a suzuki xl7 2005. My car has about 140k miles on it and I'm afraid one of these days, it will break down and im fucked because they don't have any parts in US anymore. My car has some dings and I got in an accident about 2 years ago. I've been eyeing a Toyota 86. They're really nice and I looked it up and they're realible. Plus, I think they sell parts here so if it breaks down, I'm good. So, should I buy a new car?