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He likes me and things only ended because I couldn't be emotionally stable.
Him and I stopped talking for a while I thought that was the end of it then my best friend of 3+ years
wanted to be with me. and I accepted. but now that we're like "together"
He says things that are a little too far.
and I'll never be as skinny as the body type he likes. Even if I loose weight.
We can't really agree on things we want.

Even before my ex spoke to me I was thinking of not deciding anything or be in any relationship till I'm older. so if they find someone they can marry right away and not wait for me who don't know what I want.

For a little background:

I was raised in a religious Asian family. I have 3 siblings total, the sibling I'll be talking about is my eldest brother. Growing up we were completely the opposite to each other. He was very family oriented and extremely gifted academically whilst I was a bit of a rebel and didn't care too much about school. I fell in love with an atheist white man and when my family found out, they were extremely unsupportive to say the least. I didn't care and at the age of 18 I dropped out of school and married him. After I had my first child, I realized I wanted my family in my children's lives. I organized a baby shower and invited them all, only my eldest brother came. He was very active in my son's life, at times more so than his own father and when my daughter was born he was very active in her life too. By then he had accumulated a lot of wealth through various means so could afford to spoil them by buying them gifts and taking them to Disneyworld etc. He doesn't want any kids so treats mine like his own. About a year ago I got a divorce from my children's father and since have been struggling even more financially than before the divorce (my ex was a deadbeat). None of my friends are willing to loan me anymore money as I am already indebted to them and I have no way to turn. Although my brother loves my kids, he still resents and hates that I ruined our family's reputation by marrying a white atheist so I know that if I asked him for help financially, he more than likely would refuse.

Would I be wrong in withholding my children from seeing him if he refuses to help me?

This may not be the best place to ask for this type of advice, but please help if you can. 3 YEARS AGO: my widowed mother was emotionally manipulated into marrying someone who she met through a deceitful “friend”. Let me explain; my mom’s best friend’s EX husband (who we’ll call CACTUS) contacted my mom about a potential “HUSBAND” (PRICK) for my mom. Her, being lonely, accepted PRICK’s number and they started chatting. I didn’t think anything of it since she tried to find romance countless times in the past :/ as you continue reading about her situation, keep in mind that PRICK lives on the east coast and we live on the west coast! Literally 2 weeks after they found out about each other’s EXISTENCE, CACTUS and PRICK flew out to the west coast so that PRICK and my mom could meet. When my mom laid eyes on him, there was no denying that she fell in love. ESPECIALLY when he proposed to her! He revealed that he only married her so that he would get his green card (not for love or to grow old together) and FORCED her sign a contract that basically criminalizes her too (it says that she’s aware of the fact that it’s a false marriage, so if she reports him, she’d get jail time as well and he’d get deported back to Uzbekistan). He also has a lawyer on the east coast who’s in on the fact that they have a false marriage and she gives him “advice on how to make their marriage look real” (like moving in together~which only lasted for a year, and was miserable). We’re sick of all his games and the lies we’ve had to deal with! He’s threatening her life and our family if she divorces/leaves him! It’s been three years and he’s done nothing but treat her like filth and my sister and I have helplessly witnessed it all happen. Any time I try to stand up for my mom, he says my opinion doesn’t matter since I’m only 17. How, if possible, can my mom SAFELY leave him? He deceived us KIDS into thinking we’d have a dad who actually cared about us, and that emotionally hurt us.