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“Boys will be boys.”

Is that also the reason why you’ve chosen to block the Violence Against Women act too, @senatemajldr?

It prevents dating partners w/ records of abuse + stalking women (also an early warning sign from many mass shooters) from obtaining a gun. https://t.co/shWCRmEv60— Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez (@AOC) August 6, 2019

https://www.newsweek.com/aoc-slams-mcconnell-campaigns-boys-will-boys-defense-boys-will-held-accountable-their-1452903

Who will win the belt?

My current relationship is probably coming to an inglorious end because of my girlfriend's abuse of alcohol. We have dated since February, 2018 and lived together since July, 2018. She has never hid her use of alcohol and I am not opposed to anyone drinking responsibly. I occasionally enjoy a mixed drink myself. Early in the relationship, I minimized the significance of some warning signs and now I regret having done so. Over the past 6 months, her use of alcohol has increased significantly and I have tried to discuss this with her but she maintains a resolute denial that alcohol presents any problems for her, or us.

Over the past two years, she has been terminated from two jobs. I don't know if alcohol was a factor in those dismissals. She has procrastinated tremendously on matters that have some importance and significance. Most importantly, she developed alcoholic gastritis which led to malnutrition which led to 12 days in the hospital and complications from which she is still recovering.

I have begged her to control her drinking. I have offered to stop drinking if she does. I have suggested counselling. Nothing has worked. I finally gave her an ultimatum; I was virtually certainly that would end the relationship but it was the only remaining option. Now we are discussing the terms of her moving out and moving on with our lives.

Have you ever been in a relationship and discovered that your partner was an alcoholic? Did you experience the frustration and anger that comes with living with an alcoholic? Did it end horribly or do you have a happier story about your experience?

So is the excessive amount of heat from one year to the next to sign of global warming?
Or is it just simply more heat each year for no reason

When I was married, my wife had a great system worked out for herself.

1. If I did something wrong, it was obviously my fault because I am responsible for my own behavior.

2. Is she did something that was wrong, it was just a reaction to something wrong that I had done and, therefore, she was not responsible. That, too, was my fault!

Obviously, there is a logical fallacy in this reasoning and it also is virtually certain to arouse a passionate disagreement in your partner. More importantly, focusing on who is wrong is rarely a constructive thing to do in a relationship. It puts people on the defensive and closes them off from looking for solutions. It is much more productive to say, "I was bothered when you did _______. What can we do to resolve this problem so that it doesn't happen again?"

Not everyone will be receptive to that approach but that may simply be a clue that they are not really a good match for a long term relationship. There's your warning sign!

Have you ever had a relationship in which your partner virtually blamed you for everything that happened? How did that work out? Have you ever been in a relationship in which you actually thought that your partner was almost always at fault when a conflict arose? How did that work out?