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So about a month ago this girl joined my social group. She just turned 25 and I am 33. We hit it off almost right away and have been spending a lot of time together. If it matters, she joked that I'm not the oldest guy she's dated, and she is very mature, so it make sense she prefers older guys. I definitively would not have been able to handle a woman like her when I was 25.

We've only gone out on a true date just the two of us twice, but that's just because we see each other so much I didn't want to rush anything. For example, this past Friday we stayed out as a group until midnight, just she and I went on a date on Saturday and were out until 3am, then Sunday and Monday we were out until midnight starting out as a group but just us two toward the end. 4 nights in one week out past midnight seems like enough so I didn't schedule more.

She has also been texting me almost every morning and often again in the evening or before bed. She's never used the word love, but she says how handsome and amazing I am and how she's glad to have met me and she's been craving a relationship with mature man like me.

I've never really made it past 2-3 dates with a woman, one or both of us just lose interest. So this is the first time I've seen a woman more than a couple times. We haven't even known each other for a month and we've probably seen each other 12-15 times. I really like her too, and we've talk a lot about future goals and they're virtually identical. Just new territory to me so I'm not sure if I should keep things casual now regardless of how interested she seems, or if I need to step up and be more bold so she knows I really like her too.

Ok so here's the scenario a childhood friend of mine is really into this girl he's been talking to her for a while now like 2months they are close she calls, asks him for help, they have lunch at work together, talks about her problems, jokes, giving gas money, flirts, even go out from time to time all the stuff a couple would do right? He asked her out she told him she's not ready for a relationship...

She talks to other dudes I don't know if she is intimate with other dudes but I knw for a fact she's a flirt (she asked me to hangout I assumed it was gonna be me, my friend, & her) I texted my friend to ask where he was he said he was away taking care of some business he wasn't gonna be home. I told her something came up & I couldnt make it. She gets mad & calls him a hoe when she sees him conversing with another female but she will dwn right flirt with other guys at work (or at least entertain the idea)

He's asked her out multiple times throwing his feelings out there & she shuts him the fuck dwn, then expects him to be there for her no matter what its scary tbh I'm afraid he'll find out she messing around with another guy & he loses his shit

I've told him all of this we always lookout for each other but the boy is infatuated with this girl I don't know what it is he dropped all his side pieces, he dont really hangout no more, he in his feelings/mad all the time.
(I had I slightly similar exp. when I was younger which is another reason this pisses me off)

What kinda relationship is tht? If you like a girl/boy a lot would you wait for her to be ready? What if when she is finally ready your not the one she wants? Is chasing after a love that might not be for you worth the risk, the hurt, the exposed feelings & lost opportunities at something real? if so how long would you wait?👀 For guys/girls who participate in this behavior do you ever feel guilty?