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1. 90% of the questions and answers are generalizations. They don't specify a type a person, a specific scenario, or even enough details to give an accurate analysis. Also, they are phrased as if all or most of a gender is the same, which is far from the truth. If people were giving honest answers it would almost always be "it depends."

2. Most of the answers you get will not be from your targeted type of mate. For example, say you want a new age girl but instead you get an opinion from a cheerleader. Or you want advice about approaching a good looking girl but instead get advice from an ugly girl. You are getting irrelevant advice without knowing it.

3. The polls on this site aren't even an accurate representation of the people on this site, much less the general population. For example, say you ask if guys like giving girls flowers. Guys that like giving girls flowers are more likely to click the question and answer yes while guys that don't will ignore the question, making the poll results inaccurate and irrelevant.

4. Most of the people on this site are posers. They exaggerate their self-worth, pretend to speak for all of their gender, pretend to know things they don't, or are a completely fake profile to begin with. People don't want to hang out with them so they come on here and answer questions to feel important and pass time. Not exactly the person you want advice from.

5. The people that run the site can remove or promote anything they want which makes the site fundamentally biased. This tends to attract certain types of people while repelling other types. Instead of giving an accurate representation of the general population, you end up with an echo chamber of people that repeat and validate their same beliefs back to each other.

I'm in the first semester of college here in the U. S. Because I grew up in S. Asia, I have spent time in the past at a monastery previously, as is customary for many at some point, if they choose. I spent 2 years. Here, I became acquainted with a guy (1 of the 1st I met here), who's turned out to be what girls call a player. Actually, he runs around with a few others that also are. He found out that I spent time in a monastery, and asked don't people there have great mental discipline... to which I replied it is practiced. He said good, and begged me to help him. I agreed. He said a lot of college girls now are too thick, as he said, and wear black leggings while keeping a straight face when guys like him approach. He's tried to win against them, but he can't, and he's mad. He asked me if he could have 1 of his guys get a girl like this to approach me, and watch as I showcased my superior mental discipline to see how it's done. I said sure, as I'll help with anything. So the guy who set it up and I met. He got a girl (he said she's 19), to approach me in the common. About 5'4, maybe 160 pounds (he meant thick), had on black leggings. She asked me a few questions. I used every technique I'd been taught... but after 3 seconds my eyes went down, landed on her big butt, then upper legs too, a my jaw dropped open hard😮😮😮😮. It was because of the black leggings and too thick. I can't ignore that.😖. I was humiliated, so I looked up, but when I did, I looked right into the face of a really cute brunette-who kept her face totally straight, looking at me. I finally went, "ohhh, aww😖😖😖" and gave up. The guy who watched was shocked. I'm humiliated. I didn't think this could happen. Should I tell the guy the honest truth of what happened, that I can't beat these girls, that honestly... there's no way you can? He's the leader of those few friends, and he asked for my help because he can't win against it. I can't either. Nobody can. What should I say to him or do?

As a guy I would claim that the majority of girls/women use indirect language to communicate.

For my part this indirect language just makes me paranoid because I can't have a sure secured "YES" or "NO".

Why?

Is it to hard to be honest and say real things rather than wasting my mood, my time, my future and all my life trying to figure what you meant or didn't meant or else.

Guys like direct approaches so the plan is done in a minute.

I heard about Empathy and no making someone paranoid is not a good way to share emphaty.

I would rather say something rough but true as a sign I care and won't let down for something irrevelant.