Search Results: what makes you lose interest in the girl

I love what I do, I do what I want. I've been a landlord since I was 25, and an investor. I volunteer for non-profits instead of working a 9-5. Periodically, I take low paying jobs for fun like being an assistant teacher. Sometimes I'm in college classes. Or, I just spend the year hanging out with family or traveling. It's an out-of-the-box lifestyle. I can sleep in, go to bed late. I'm free.

The problem is dating.

If I say I'm a 33 yr old student, people want to know what I'm going to do with the degree. Nothing. I don't need it. I just like to learn. They want to know what I have planned for a "career". Nothing, I enjoy making money while just relaxing and enjoying life. I went out of my way to figure out how to earn money while working the least amount I could in a formal job.

If I say assistant teacher, they think "that's cute" and ask when I plan to be an actual teacher or move to the next "bigger" job.

If I say landlord or investor, people react like they see dollar signs or get intimidated. They start trying to figure out how rich I am, how I got to where I am, and then they exit when they feel too far behind is the impression I get. Or, they immediately stop being interested romantically and want me to "hook them up".

The most people, men and women, run away when I mention being an investor or landlord. People think student or assistant teacher is cute and will actually date me. Volunteer brings people back to, "But how do you make money?"

Personally, I'm old fashioned. I feel the focus should be on how much money the man brings in. I'm surprised how much focus is placed on me. I know a lot of successful guys who would date a girl working a low paying job or no job at all. So, why is it even really an issue if I make a lot? It's an issue if I don't make much, but it's not nearly as much of an issue as me possibly making more.

Has anyone else had these issues with dating? Have you lost interest in someone because of their job, how much they make, etc?

Like if you’re seeing her for 1-2 months and she seems really into you and says so, is that a turn off or makes her seem of less value? My friend told me I shouldn’t show guys I like them until they ask to me exclusive/my boyfriend, otherwise they’ll lose interest if I show interest.

I saw this video saying that people who seem 'Available' are actually more attractive than people who act 'Aloof'.
It makes sense to me that if a person puts distance, then eventually you lose interest.
However if a person is constantly there for you, eventually you grow some kind of appreciation for them.

So what do you think is more attractive if you were looking for a long term relationship? A girl that seems to be there for you and interested in spending time with you, or a girl that seems distant and like she doesn't need you in her life?

(fyi: im not Asian, im just a fan of kpop, hence the photos I chose)