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I have a 21 year old guy friend that I have noticed over the past month has been deteriorating. About 2 weeks ago, he told me that he was abused as a child and he went into detail about what occurred. This past weekend he sent me a screenshot of his tender over snapchat and I responded by telling him that he was wasting his time on tinder. He said he agreed, but is doing it anyways because he has never been loved, so he has nothing to lose. I told him not to say that but he just went on to say nobody cared about him. We talked for a little on snapchat basically saying the same thing over again. He ultimately said he has never had a girlfriend, held hands, been kissed, or had sex. He went on to say that he was done talking on snapchat for the night because this was making him cry. At the time, I honestly thought he was just seeking attention because I have never seen him cry and he always seems emotionless. Yesterday, we talked again about things and he began crying in front of me. I told him that he is letting what happened define him and he should not. I know its hard when he had to go through abuse for years, but I feel like he needs to let go. I told him that he needs to get help, but he says he is afraid to because he never told anyone else and he does not want to get hurt by anyone in a position of power again.