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If you had to chose between these two guys who would you chose?

Guy #1 The Recent Ex :
Pros:
He's seen me at rock bottom and stuck around (I had a psychotic break and he pushed me through it)
Five years older and has more life experience and helps figure out things like taxes and mortgages w me
Is okay with a hangout being me napping at him place after night shift
Same interests
No topic of conversation is off limits
There's two years of history
The sex is 12/10
He's willing to fight for me
Considers me the most important person in his life
Makes me laugh

Negatives:
His communication skills go out the window when he's stressed
He can be very self centred
Has a habit of being flaky
Depression can put him through months of feeling disconnected from the world

Guy #2 The Rebound w Potential
Pros:
Super ambitious
good job
Makes me try new things
Healthy lifestyle
has his shit together
Always wants to spend time together
Family and friends know him
Wants a serious relationship
Makes me laugh
Really good people skills, I could take him as a date anywhere
Loves to show me off

Negatives:
Moving way too fast emotionally
Slightly clingy
Always on the move not okay w just chilling in quiet
I don't know him that well yet
Couple kinks in bed that make me uncomfortable
Has an illness that may cut his life short
Not willing to talk about issues in life, almost too positive

I am currently single until I figure out what I want to do but I'm stuck between two amazing guys and I seriously am so confused rn

For some reason I really like Wreck it Ralph because growing up I always identified with the bad guy. My mom and sister would always treat me like I was the bad guy, I cooked, cleaned, and did the most work and they took all my "clothes" and stuff that was given to me by friends, and they always made fun of how "ugly" and "undesirable" I was. It was like "no one likes you, you should go kill yourself, you're lower than dog poop" all my life. They stole from me, demanded me be their slaves and never shared with me and always assumed I was selfish, evil and mean. They on the other hand was always the pure, good one who did no wrong (my mom mentally, physically and psychologically abused me but she was always justified in her eyes, my sister did the same to me along with stealing someone else's husband, breaking and stealing and having a child out of wedlock and being so awful her "friends" always kicked her out of their houses to live on the street with a newborn). Needless to say my mom and sister think they are super righteous and holy, and the mother teresa of their time. I'm supposedly the most evil and awful person ever born.

I spend most of my life being a good mom, wife and friend and reading tons of self help books to better my moral, character, social skills, nonviolent communication, and empathy factor. I try to read about 12 books a year and always attending classes on how to become a better person because obviously I'm the most evil person ever born.