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My name is Elise and I had a falling out with my best friend about two years ago over petty stuff. I did hurt her, but I never intended to cause her as much pain as I did. I have tried apologizing countless times, but I feel that it hasn't helped us in the long run. We finally started interacting again a few months ago but after not seeing each-other for a few months, it feels like we're back at square one where we don't say anything but always seem to stare at one another (she seems to stare more than I do). When we were best friends, there were romantic feelings between each-other and she would talk about being bi or curious. I came out to her and confessed my feelings for her but she didn't act upon that. So although nothing intimate happened between us, that could be a reason why we haven't been able to be friends again. I am planning on going to a fraternity party tonight, and I am hoping she will be there as well. From what I can see, we both miss each-other so I'm thinking about talking to her tonight. If I do, I would say something along the lines of, "Look, I am so sorry for what I did in the past and the harm that I put you through, but I never intended to hurt you as much as I did. I cared about you so much back then, and even though we're not close now, I still do. And I don't know how to put this or how you'll take it but I really want to earn your trust back and try to become friends again because I can't pretend that every time I see you everything is fine because it clearly isn't. Even if we never become as close as we once were, I at least want to try and become decent friends with you again." This would be the first time I'm talking to her in person and apologizing straight to her face so I'm hoping with that, she'll be more willing to talk to me about things and try to mend our friendship. Overall, what do you think of the situation and is talking to her in person something that I should try? Thanks for all the help, I appreciate it!

We live in a technological world now where it's just so easy to make or break plans with someone at the shot of a gun. Unfortunately, it also comes with stupid texting games I wish I didn't have to deal with.
Dating in this time and at my age is hard. its hard for everyone, but mostly for people who grew up with tech. It's made chivalry die out and thats what I fall for which is probably why I always go for older men... Im mature for my age and I know what I want.

This guy I met flaked on me twice. The first time our plans weren't solid but he said he had something come up with his friends and I waited around. Then we didn't speak for a month.

He submarined me. We then made last minute plans to see a movie and made new plans. The second time he bailed we had plans to go to dinner and Christmas in the park which could have been romantic as fuck. I was looking forward to it all day and then last minute he says I can't hangout I don't feel good I'm sick and have to run some errands.

Then he didn't text me for a week. He just sent me a text but I don't feel like responding and letting him get away with this for a second time. I'm looking for something serious and I don't exactly think this behavior should be rewarded with my time. I think it's smart to wait it out and see if he'll actually take me seriously and not waste my time. If he doesn't step up, then I'll know to move on.

I'm doing option 1 and 2 but I'm just curious to see what other people would do. It obviously sucks to be flaked on and there are definitely times where the person is honest but with dating a new person and texting, you never really know.

Trust me, I hate playing games and this isn't my way of playing a game, it's a way of showing that I simply won't put up with that behavior. Once you get fooled twice and still let them have their way, it becomes habit. The only way I feel like I can earn respect is by doing this.

What would you all do? What are your thoughts behind your answer?