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What I mean by familiarity is having common grounds and similar environment/Upbringing.
I've never dated but I have spoken to quite a few suitors with the prospects of marriage, many of whom were great guys (successful, handsome, nice, religious etc), but I have noticed that lack of familiarity makes me feel less attached and attracted to the person.

Familiarity can manifest through different aspects (these criteria are not all cumulative)
1) Speaking the same native language at home
2) Having generally the same type of looks (so I guess being from the same race/ethnicity).
3) Having similar interests
4) Being from the same religion
5) Having the same education and similar youth etc
6) Having similar family background and social status.
7) Sharing the same or similar culture and traditions


I think this is kinda shallow of me but I can't help it. When my man first spoke to me in our native language, I suddenly felt less foreign and homesick, and I felt like re-found a piece of my joyful childhood. I want to transmit the values and childhood I inherited from my parents to my children.

After speaking to him and finding out how similar we are, it made me easily project in the future and consider him as a potential husband. Suddenly his looks stopped mattering as much to me (I still find him handsome though).
When I was younger I thought that "Love is above all and Love is enough to look past every difficulty". Nowadays I think it's kinda foolish to think only with your heart.

Love is very important, but you also need to think with your brain and analyse the relationship as a whole: Can it be viable in the long run once the fires of passion are gone?

For me, part of the reason why I love the current man I'm talking to is that I know he can be a good father and husband and that I feel in a familiar setting with him. Our common grounds will most likely lead to less clashes and fights which highers the prospects of success of the relationship.

Bare in mind I moved in here at 19 Neighbour -1 Irish male, 60ish wrote me a letter inviting me out for drinks, then kept asking me out which I'd decline, offered to buy me a telly, flashed me on the stairs used to have wild violent parties all week from 7pm to 7am. I reported him and ignored thennhe started slipping out of his house quietly. As he was with another neighbour talking I said good afternoon, to other neighbour but I think he thought that included him. Today he came home with a pizza then when he said hello he asked me if I wanted a slice, I declined but asked what was on it and he said meat, so I lied and said I don't eat meat. My way of trying to get him to see we have nothing in common.
Neighnour 2 Irish female 50+ odd, once she spoke to me in a foreign language, then I found her passed out on the floor and tried to help her she told me to f off. We didn't talk for ages. A neighbour died so one evening she decided to tell me, also that she used to help him out with errands, suggesting if I needed help she would. She asked me one day if she could borrow money, I'd just woken from my sleep 10am Saturday morning. I lent it to her but decided it would be the first and last time. 2 days ago she asked me if she could borrow money again (whe have ot back) so I told her straight, I dont have it to lend. She also fails to understand thst I know her and neighbour 1 are friendly!

I love discovering songs from around the world and just vibing to them even though I don't understand shit lol. I probably listen to more foreign songs than French or Moroccan songs.

I understand only half of the Spanish songs I listen to, I listen to German and Russian songs without understanding a thing and I'm learning Korean so I understand a couple lyrics when I'm listening to kpop.