I am mentally and emotionally a very strong person, a lot stronger than people think. People underestimate my emotional and mental strength because they are like, "Oh she is just a teenage girl."
What they don't know is that this "teenage girl" has been through those nightmares that would have left even a 30 year old adult traumatized and depressed for life.
The fact that I still smile as if nothing ever happened shows my strength.
The fact that I still try to be happy and positive despite all the hardships and setbacks just shows I love life too much and it makes me feel so proud of myself.
God gave me life because he thinks I deserve to live on his planet then who are human beings to tell me otherwise?
The one thing that even stops me from sharing my painful past is the fact I hate too much sympathy. I am a very forgetful and a forgiving person. I forget the worst and I even feel surprised at my ability to forget and forgive the worst of the worst.
Even a king's mother was "just a teenage girl" once.
Even today, teenage girls become wives and mothers, whereas I see 30 year old men having marriage phobia.
My real name is Nimrah. "Shehzadi" is just my profile name, which means "Princess" in Urdu and Hindi. I don't hesitate to call myself a princess because Emma Watson said, "Every girl is a princess." A girl doesn't have to be a part of the royal family or marry a prince to become a princess. A girl doesn't even need a tiara to be a princess. She doesn't even a palace to be a princess. She doesn't have to look like Angelina Jolie to be a princess. A girl needs a heart made of gold to be a princess. Every girl who has a heart made of gold is a princess. That gold is priceless. That gold can't be bought or sold. When that gold shines, it lights up the world.
Therefore, it is about how clean somebody's heart is and how beautiful their soul is, not what grades they get, what salary they get, what designer they clothes they wear, how big their house is, or how good looking they are.
Victoria Beckham also taught her daughter, "It is not about who is the smartest girl in class, it is not about who is the prettiest girl, it is about who is the kindest girl in class."
"No matter how talented, rich, successful or intelligent you are, the way you treat people says it all."
"Good things are even written on the walls but it is the soft tone of voice that matters."
I feel sad when people justify their bitter tone of voice by saying, "truth is bitter." Just because truth is bitter doesn't mean we have to say it in a bitter way. The purpose of truth is never to spread bitterness. If bad people can say sweet lies using a sweet language, why can't good people say the the truth in using a sweet language? The way we says things is also important.
Woman is an important person in a man's life.
God created Eve because Adam felt lonely in heaven.
Without Eve, Adam's heaven was not heaven.
When Eve was created, then Adam's heaven felt complete.
A man's heaven is not complete without his queen.
Even in heaven with all those palaces and bounties, there was a void in Adam's heart that could only be filled with Eve's love.
Woman was created from a man's rib, close to his heart to be loved by him, by his side to be always besides him and under his arm to be protected by him.
Therefore, it was a symbolic way of saying that Adam's job was to love Eve, to be with her and to protect her.
A real man is someone who loves his woman, who is always besides her and always protects her.
In my next article, I will share the pains and struggles, I went through as a girl and how much my parents tortured. Even though I am praising women, a woman was always my biggest enemy and unfortunately, she is my mother. In my language, Urdu, there is a saying that "a woman is another woman's biggest enemy." I genuinely believe that friendships of boys are stronger than friendship of girls. This is because girls view each other as a competition, they compare themselves with each other and there is a jealousy among girls because of the competition and comparison.
Girls compare their looks, their bodies, their clothes, their grades, their husbands, their children, their jobs, their wealth, their houses, their destiny in short words, girls compare their lives. Even at weddings, girls have a competition in terms of who will look the best or who is wear more gold. This is why you hear girls say things like, "I am going to make all the girls jealous by wearing the best dress or by showing my partner."
As a foreign Pakistani, I know how much jealousy and envy hurts, because native Pakistani girls think, "I am lucky to be a British." It hurts when people think foreigners live a perfect and a easy life.
Even in the entertainment industry, it is sexist how actresses are compared with each more than actors are compared with each other. People always feel happy for male actors when they celebrate their success but they call actresses self-obsessed when they celebrate their success instead of being happy for them.
Even in families, the drama of women never ends. Mother-in-law never gets along with her daughter-in-law. Sister-in-laws don't get along with each other. Sister-in-laws as in husband's sister, brother's wife. Daughter-in-laws of one family don't get along with each other. Step mother doesn't get along with her step daughter. Step sisters don't get along with each other.
Nowadays, in the 21st century, even the biological mother and biological daughter don't get along, even two biological sisters don't get along with each other let alone a step mother or a step sister. One reason is property and the second reason is jealousy because of all of them want to be center of attention or the favourite person in the family.
A daughter-in-law wants to be the favourite daughter-in-law usually by being the first one to give birth to a grandson. They also make men picks side. The bloke always becomes a sandwich between his mother and his wife. He becomes a sandwich between his wife and sister. The worst part is when he becomes a sandwich between his wife and his daughter. Or when he becomes a sandwich between his two daughters. I know my dad always became a sandwich between me and my mother. My mother just hated the fact I was a daddy's girl because he hated me.
I remembered to write this bit about women not getting with each other in families when my mom all of a sudden came to confront me for writing things against her in my diary. It made me so angry, she knows wants to control what I write in my diary. She took everything and everyone away from me, and my diary is my last friend, and she wants to take that away from me too.
She turned my entire family against me because of her jealousy whenever someone praised me. In fact, I even broke up with my boyfriend because he always took her side. I hate how my mom plays the mother card. It's like no matter how much she tortures me, she knows the Asian community will always be on her side without even hearing my side of the story. She takes advantage of being a mother because in the Asian, a mother is treated like a god, not a human being who can also be wrong.
The next article will be about my narcissistic parents and how much they tortured me. However, my Asian community will never understand that parents can also be evil and they should also be called out for torturing their children. Children are not slaves or properties.
Dear brothers, if a ship was sinking, whose food would you choose? Your mother's food or your wife's food?