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When I was married, my wife had a great system worked out for herself.

1. If I did something wrong, it was obviously my fault because I am responsible for my own behavior.

2. Is she did something that was wrong, it was just a reaction to something wrong that I had done and, therefore, she was not responsible. That, too, was my fault!

Obviously, there is a logical fallacy in this reasoning and it also is virtually certain to arouse a passionate disagreement in your partner. More importantly, focusing on who is wrong is rarely a constructive thing to do in a relationship. It puts people on the defensive and closes them off from looking for solutions. It is much more productive to say, "I was bothered when you did _______. What can we do to resolve this problem so that it doesn't happen again?"

Not everyone will be receptive to that approach but that may simply be a clue that they are not really a good match for a long term relationship. There's your warning sign!

Have you ever had a relationship in which your partner virtually blamed you for everything that happened? How did that work out? Have you ever been in a relationship in which you actually thought that your partner was almost always at fault when a conflict arose? How did that work out?

So I'm really kinda worried about this because all over the internet everyone talks about how not only are movies a terrible first date idea but dinner is a horrible first date idea as well 😨

When I asked her out I didn't really think about the actual date that much because I was more concerned about her saying yes or or no or calling the police. When I came up with the movie/dinner idea I thought it was good because I love movies, she said she was into superhero movies, and there isn't anything else to do. Sure I could have gotten us a ride to the park by my house but nobody is ever there and the nearest fast food place is like a 3 mile walk (why do you think I hate bike rides). So that really wouldn't be romantic to walk in the hot ass florida sun to McDonald's or burger king would it?

I picked chillis because it's the closest thing to an "upscale" restaurant near my house. I didn't want her to think I'm cheap and don't care (even though I'm poor as piss) and I didn't want to just see a movie and drop her off back at home, hungry and pissed off that we couldn't even have a decent conversation.

So now that I've fucked up and learned my lesson, I'm asking gag how to fix this if it's really that bad. I can't really change the plans because I already brought the tickets and asked my sister to drive us around for the night. I plan on sitting next to her though when we eat I guess?
She keeps texting me and she seems really into me (she called me a gentlemen last night). I don't wanna fuck this up for her. With that being said did I have to reserve the seats for dinner? I have no fucking clue what I'm doing to be honest...