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It might seem like a silly question. Im currently 22, and i have never drank alcohol, not a single drop has knowingly entered my mouth.

I told myself at a young age i would never drink and i would try to integrate into society as a non-drinker and try to have fun whilst sober. Im now 22, i have now reached my career goals of having a degree and being a software developer. This career goal was the main reason why i avoided drinking, as i wanted to make sure i had my life under control before i started partying and whatever.

Over time I've developed a social anxiety disorder and so i haven't really been able to integrate into a young persons society. I've been out to clubs once, i have very few friends (if any), and all the friends I've ever had have pushed me away since i never went to parties with them, I've had sex with one girl and it was basically a once in a lifetime moment that caused it to happen (long story).

Now that you know the context, is it time for me to learn to drink? If so, how should i do it? Will it actually weaken my social anxiety? (I don't know what it feels like to be drunk)

This is such a hard dilemma to solve for me, i could write an essay on it. Just give me your views please, the more detail the better.

I am very conflicted at the moment about what I should do. I have always been serious in dating for marriage. But until now there has been no one suitable after searching for years.

A bit of background :
Every interested single I have met either has been run through by Chad and Tyrone, is a single mother with a few kids or is obese or all of the above.

At 6 feet tall with a body forged from lifting weights. With both university and professional degrees. A permanent job as part of senior management for a conglomerate. And the best being debt free.

All this takes time and I only dipped my toes into the dating pool at 28 after reaching management level.

Now the dilemma:
I think everyone has an idea what kind of girl I am looking for with my kind of profile and the perks I bring to the table. The problem is there aren't any.

My parents (left leaning which is shocking) are telling me to look at 30 year old women as candidates for being my wife and not care about virginity, her past or it will get worse for me later.

My friends are advising me to only play with them for sex only. I have never had a relationship like this before and have so far resisted but as the years go by I am getting more and more tempted to just date for sex. I am not getting any younger.

I can say without question that I do not want to marry women who reached 30 or those who cannot even take care of their health or morals.

Should I just lower my standards to date women, enjoy the sex and if someone better comes just replace the current woman I am dating?

My parents are against this of course, my friends are for me doing this.

Currently interested in a few women but recently found out that all of them have already been run through by Chad and Tyrone.

Spoiler alert: I have no sex skills since I don't play around, smoke, gamble or drink.