Search Results: getting out of the friend zone

I asked a guy out we both seem to like each other , but he was a bit weird about it. At that point i forgot about it.

Then, a month later her asked me out shyly and i was interested though a bit caught off guard bc of his earlier behavior. I genuinely had plans, so i had to tell him that.

After several weeks of hanging out with friends as we often do , I got the feeling he was still interested based on his behavior and things he said. I tend to down play signs so as not to assume wrongly, so I was not sure.

I also, wanted to make a decision as to if id move on or not as we have known each other over a year. So one day after playing chess, I asked him out. Which to me seems 100% rational.

He responded exasperated, as if i he had asked me 100 times and I kept saying no.

OR as if he had said no 100 times and i had asked him 101 times.

It does not make sense, and I do not like him insinuating i am out of line for simply asking him if he wants to hang out. I am not in a rush, I do not mind waiting but waiting -in the case he is interested, is entirely different than just wasting time-in the case he is not interested.

Why should not i ask and why should not he tell me.. I feel like i am in the twilight zone. He was perfectly friendly moments before , how can he get angry so quickly.

Some guys suggested he is angry bc i am not letting him chase me. Well, i guess if he wants a chase that is his choice and no one is forcing him to go after someone who does not want to be chased. It does not explain him getting angry. I am not into games, am i expected to change who i am?

I only asked twice and only bc he was not clear HOWEVER, I have seen guys suggest ask until you get a hard no-so you can move on with no doubt. Sounds logical. I am not against this, though it seems this is not meant for Women. We are supposed to just guess or wait or roll over and play dead until the guy says sit?

Guy I've been talking to for 3 weeks says that he's attached to me, never wants to lose me, I'm really important to him, etc. He's ignored me these past few days but actively watched my story.
I kinda got pissed and texted him, and he gave me an excuse.
"His snapchat wasn't working. "
I said "sure"
He said "whatever"
"I was getting a new phone too and I wasn't trying to sass him" (even though I was, b/c I was mad)
To which he says "it sounded like it"
I said "pft, I know when someone chooses not to talk to me, I'm not dumb. If i didn't like you as much as I do, maybe I wouldn't be caring so much."
He says: "Then let's just not talk then, I am who I am. I isolate myself frequently.
I said "I wanna keep talking to you, I really do"
Him. "The just understand that I am all over the place. Ignore everyone because I need my alone time"
I said "okay"
He said "It's not you, it's how I deal with things. I just realized I was being too anti social"
I said " I overreacted b/c I didn't know what was going on, I shouldn't have made assumptions, I think it could help if we got to know each other on a deeper level"
He said "That will have to be for another day, but you are a good girl"
I said "Im a good girl in what way?"
He said "Are my friend in the very least I am so disjointed from life that rn who knows"
I said everyone likes to have someone they can trust and talk to, etc. I asked if we're friends or if he's friendzoning me"
He said friends ill never friend zone you
I said that text made me smile, it's hard to explain but I'm sure we both know why
He didn't reply, which is okay :) But I was wondering if I am in the friendzone. We also sext, but I don't show a whole lot, and he also makes me a part of his life, and reassures me that he doesn't want me to feel like I'm being used. we've talked about wanting to see each other in real life