This mytake is not meant to represent all #CasesOfTheEx and probably best fits for those who were brokenhearted, ghosted or dumped so sudden.
1. Listen to Some Music
First, listen to something fit for the moment, but then lighten up with something better.
2. Ask Yourself “Why”
Why did the two of you not workout? Are you ready to accept that you could be partially to blame for the downfall of this relationship? Did someone cheat? Did someone fall out of love? Was the whole thing one-sided?
3. Ask For Closure
Once you have come up with why you feel the relationship ended, reach out to the person you formerly shared the relationship with and tell them you are seeking closure. Tell them you just want to know their reasoning because it will help you move on. If their reason for the breakup is different from yours, don’t argue. Just agree to disagree and be understanding of what they may have been going through as well. If you’ve reached out for closure but are being avoided by them, then you have to accept that your reasoning for the breakup is closure enough.
4. Don’t BE Friends, Just Unfriend
You have to cut all contact people. Delete them from your phone contacts. Unfollow them on social media. If they won’t let you be and/or give you the space you need to move on, then you may have to block them. Don’t even keep tabs on them because it’ll just make you miss them or want to compete with whatever they’re up to.
Remaining friends whether in person or at a distance is not helping anyone get past the problems y'all worked up. If they were your friend before you began dating/flirting/fcking etc then you have to accept that all went out the window when you chose to become something more. You don’t have to full on ghost them. Just Leave them a short message, sweet and to the point that you're about to cut all contact. If you see them in person, avoid them to the fullest if possible.
5. Try to Avoid Doing “Yalls Thang”
For example, if you only liked eating at Cheesecake Factory because it was his/her favorite restaurant, then try to skip out on the place for a while. Go back to what you liked before meeting them. Go back to watching your shows, not “our” show.
6. Give Yourself Some Time Alone
”Me Time” is incredibly important after a breakup. You need time to reflect on what just happened, why it happened. Because when it happened was probably pretty recent. Spend some time alone to restore your self-esteem and remember what life was like back when you were single.
7. Rebound If You Have to
If you just really can’t be alone, then fine, find someone to make you feel “temporarily” better. However, you dont wanna toy with anyones heart after it being done to your own. So make sure you let this person know that you’re not ready for anything serious and are just seeking comfort. Also, dont seek a rebound out of revenge. Don’t flirt with someone just to rub it in your exes face because that will show you’re clearly not over him/her.
8. Once You Love Yourself, You’re Ready to Love Somebody Else
After you have built yourself back up and restored your heart, then you should be good to go. If you feel you're ready to enter the dating pool again, go for it. But i suggest you choose someone with a name that doesn't match/rhyme with your exes. Matter of fact, lets go even further. Try to go for a completely new type. Step out of your comfort zone and see if you can find someone different, opposite of what you’re usually drawn to. But make sure this person is capable of making you happy and doesn't remind you of your ex.
9. Just Kidding! Think Positive Silly