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I am 22, I work part-time at Wal-Mart, im a red-head, Im introverted, and I am "husky" in build. Some might say that I fall in love to easily and get heart-broken every time. All of the "relationships" I had were with women who thought of me as nothing more than a punch-line, a last resort, or a joke. I've been trying to put myself out there, you know, going out, interacting with people, and all that mess to no avail. One major flaw of mine is that I am overly generous, too compassionate, and too nice. I know about the saying "nice guys finish last", but I want to hold on the idea that there is hope for me, for as long as I can, however if I truly am undatable, then I will suck it up and accept reality. I do apologize for the length of this.

People always say nice guys dont get girls, and it is very true. But if your an tall, attractive guy, is that an exception.
Because girls do find me attractive and im a decent/nice guy, but not overly nice!

Hot girl turned old woman story:
I was a former super hot chick, and now older woman. I can tell you a few things of what it is like from the other side.

When I was 25, I too was into running and lifting weights and my body was spectacular and I had six-pack abs and a naturally large chest (36F). Everywhere I went, men of all ages stared at me. It was really annoying that most didn't even try to hide it. The ones that were the worst were the creepy middle aged men who would hit on me, thinking that they could somehow fool me into going out with them.

No matter how grounded you are, you get a skewed perspective of the world. I truly believed that men were genuinely nice to women as a matter of course. I believed that most people were nice and accommodating and liked people. This was because most of my friends were hot as well, and guys were falling all over themselves to help us, so this is all I knew. I simply didn't realize that some men are deeply hostile and only nice to women they want to ****. I did not realize the weird code in society which equated beauty with importance. Such a thought never occurred to me that the world might be a different place than I had experienced.

I can tell you that men now are neither hostile or overly helpful. In fact, I feel pretty much invisible. And that, by itself, is okay. I can tell you I am equally ignored by females as well. It could be the age, or it could be a combination of old and not attractive. Who knows, except that I am no longer hawt.

There were a lot of privileges you don't realize as well, like making great money, getting preferential treatment, or being dealt with respectfully. It blew my mind to realize that everyone is not entitled to this as a matter of course, but it is reserved for those who are physically desirable.

I think the biggest shock to me was realizing that my entire worldview had been wrong FOR DECADES. That was the most shocking.