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It all started when i posted on my high school snap chat page add me on snap chat and start a streak with me. And this guy who was a senior and was about to graduate (i was a year before) added me and we started texting as friends he saw me but i didn't see him, and he texted me saying that i caught his eye. and one day i see him at lunch and i wave to him and then i walk to my table far away and he texted me "im coming over" and he later texted me asking about what i thought about him and i told him that i thought that he was nice and cool and he answered laughing " Oh great (laughing emoji)" he ever since that day he started sitting with me in lunch everyday and he even walked to class with me and talked daily. He would start flirting with me throught text only and constantly text me even late every night. one day we texted each other that we liked each other but he said he wasn't allowed to date but he asked me out weeks later on April 10 he was my first boyfriend. He asked me as a joke i think several times asking to netflix and chill and the one day he asked me if i ever thought about doing anything freaky and i was like what the hell and he answered saying that i was so innocent and disrespectful that that was just what couples did I said i didn't want sex until marriage. When we were dating he would hug me everyday mostly one armed but i felt really bad because i felt like he didn't like me i felt like we werent like a couple he refused to hold hands with me saying that he wanted to be lowkey and we argued a lot because i felt like he was cold at first he told me to be patient to please not leave that he would fight for me and that he needed me but then when we would argue about the same thing because there was still nothing no move. he would tell me that i should leave and he brought up that i was awkward af and not outgoing at all.

When we met, we were both 24 and felt old and wanted to settle down and get married so we did.
He was afraid I would leave him if he didn't get me to marry and have his kids.
After a few years of marriage, whenever we had problems he would stone wall me or become defensive and turn the table around to him and how he is angry that I am angry at something... if that even makes sense.

I started reading books to figure out how to be a better partner.
I started using the advice, being proactive instead of reactive, using nonviolent communication, not using the stone walling and becoming defensive and learning to be empathetic and fulfill needs and wants and really listen to understand.

He does not read any books. He is reactive, always blaming me for being evil. Uses violent unkind communications all the time, blaming me for being evil all the time. Instead of trying to encourage me or to suggest something that might be helpful or empathizing with me he just becomes defensive and starts to JUDGE me and put me down and point out all the flaws he can about me that is pissing him off. I"m always trying to fulfill his needs and wants, I'm always trying to listen to understand him but he does not do the same to me. I feel like I"m supposed to be a robot that is perfect and has no feelings. but he is allowed to be imperfect, have me solve all his problems, have feelings and have all his needs and wants fulfilled.

did we just grow apart? What can I do about this?