Search Results: is he using me for friends with benefits

So, my boyfriend and I have been together for a couple months. It started out amazing, it was sort of a "friends to lovers" situation. We were very talkative and got comfortable around each other quickly. But, he's started ignoring me to play video games or watch tiktok a lot lately (it's been a few weeks now). Like, not texting the whole day then coming back the next saying some bullshit like 'sorry I was playing all day and I fell asleep'.

I would understand, I get being addicted to video games and tiktok, but he's been ignoring me even when I've told him I needed him or I missed his company.

We've barely talked the past week, and when we have, he's always initiated some kind of sexual topic that had us end up having phone sex or exchanging.

I feel like he got bored of me and is now just using me for sex. I confronted him, but he didn't really care until I suggested breaking up, telling me he loves me and that he doesn't know what he'd do without me.

I'm giving him the benefit of the doubt because he said he doesn't really understand 'feelings' and it's his first relationship, but I'm quite sensitive and I need someone to be there to show that they care.

I don't really know what he feels or what I should do.

Does he still like me? Should we break up?

So I’ve been texting/video calling this guy for 6 months during lockdown. We’ve managed to see each other a few times after. We’ve kissed and made out one time.

Although we never really defined what we are, I think we’re kinda friends with benefits even though when we interact he doesn’t really treat me like a friends with benefits, he’s super caring and respectful and actually tells me stuff about his life. Plus doesn’t press me into sex at all.

He says he really loves my company and is impassioned by me; he also said once he couldn’t help but fall for me. But he’s very inconsistent and sometimes we can go from texting everyday to a week without texting and he leads a super busy life and all.

So here’s the deal,
It was my birthday at some point during lockdown and I told him a couple of days before and he said he would love to give me a hug and wished me a good day. But when the real day came he saw my stories about my birthday and said nothing!! 4 days later he texted me acknowledging my birthday by asking if I had a good day and saying he hadn’t been well cause someone he used to know died…but still…

His birthday is coming soon but we haven’t texted in a week. We’re suppose to hang out but he’s very busy. So I’m wondering whether I should text him happy birthday or reply to one of his stories and say “Is it your birthday? Hope you had a nice day x” OR whether I shouldn’t text anything at all? Oh and actually he never mentioned his birthday to me at any given point so I’m not so sure I should and I feel if I do I’m chasing after him a little.

Thing with this guy is I don’t want to get used to me always being there for him cause I won’t be! Sometimes I have a feeling he takes me for granted also I’ve added him to my close friends list on insta but for privacy motives.

And maybe if I don’t wish him happy birthday it might serve as a wake up call for him