I started dating this man I found online 2 months ago and we were both looking for something serious. He knew I was waiting for a promotion by the end of summer so they would be chances that I might move. At first he says it didn’t bother him and we started having dates such as movies or cooking together. We used to text a lot about funny stuff or more deep conversations. I spent some days out of town as it’s summer but as soon as I’’ get back, we’d see each other. I got confirmation 2 weeks ago for my promotion which makes me move out in a city 1h30 far from him. He told me he wasn’t into long distance so we should keep it friends with benefits for the summer to protect each other. Which I agreed as he was being honest and respectful. However it began more and more complicated as we continued these dating/texting habits bc sometimes he would act distant or delete cute messages he sent to me before I’d see them. Now he keeps on texting me/asking for news but he takes days to answer which I know is not his way of doing. I’m aware he has a life and we used to text whenever we could due to our jobs and duties but always had the rule to tell each other when we were too busy to speak. Now all of this is fading away, and I’m feeling quite bad bc this is not what I agreed: first days of the friends with benefits situation he was still caring and all but now I feel like a booty call. I know were nothing but friends with benefits but his actions are mixed, he’s either really there for me or really cold. I’d like some external POV because I don’t want to end up hurting, and I didn’t change my behaviour toward him.
A man I started dating for something serious asked to be friends with benefits because I’m moving out of town, but now he acts hot and cold?
