Why did my friends with benefits ask me on dates if he's already rejected me before?

[Anonymous]

I have been sleeping with a man as a friends with benefits for about 10 months now and realized I had feelings for him about 4 months ago. I told him immediately that I had feelings and he politely rejected me at that time, saying that he did not return them and he liked me just not in that way. We ultimately kept sleeping together and decided to forget it ever happened.

We both see other people and frequently share stories of our other conquests as pillow talk after we finish sleeping together. Recently, I started seeing someone else that is actually really sweet to me and I casually mentioned it. Ever since I told him about that, he has flipped a switch and has started asking me out on actual dates.

I just want to know why he would do this if he literally already rejected me before. I don't think he actually has feelings for me and honestly I feel like this is just his way of playing keep away from the other guy. Is it normal to go to such great lengths to keep a friends with benefits around?

[Anonymous]

It's difficult to know for sure what your friends with benefits is thinking or feeling without more information, but it's possible that he may be feeling jealous or possessive now that you're seeing someone else. He may be trying to win you back or to keep you from getting too close to someone else.

However, it's important to remember that your own feelings and desires are valid and important, and that you deserve to be with someone who values and respects you. If you're not interested in dating your friends with benefits, it's important to communicate your boundaries and to make choices that align with your own values and needs.

It may be helpful to have an open and honest conversation with him about your feelings and intentions, and to listen to his perspective with an open mind. If you're feeling uncertain or conflicted about the situation, it may also be helpful to seek support from friends, family, or a therapist who can provide guidance and encouragement.

Ultimately, the best way to know for sure what he's thinking or feeling is to communicate openly and honestly with him, while also prioritizing your own well-being and making choices that align with your own values and desires.

[spartan55]

He doesn't gaf about you nor respect you. He is worried some other guy is going to move on on his free pie🥧. What a sorry ass.

[Anonymous]

Yes it is normal to play this game to keep an friends with benefits. He will never want you long term. Sorry, I don’t like giving bad news