I sometimes find my girlfriend incredibly boring. How do I deal with it?

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Have you ever felt the same?

sage2021 · Accepted Answer

I was in a relationship with a man that was definitely someone I thought I would be together with forever. We were living together.

We had so much in common for many years. We were both very whitty, and there were a lot of laughs.

I couldn't believe all the things we had in common for years.

Then, in one day it all just stopped! Over a period of about three months he just wasn't sure he same guy I fell in love with. He wasn't funny anymore. I told him these things too.
He came home one day and asked what we had in common. Well, over the years, people change and what they once had in common changes sometimes.

One big change that he made was when the transgender thing was new and it was everywhere. Everywhere except in my home because I didn't want nothing to do with them at all. So he wanted to talk about it and I didn't. So, that was a major change and things did get boring.

So, sometimes things can start out great, then the world changes, conversations change, and just how long can a couple talk about these stupid Iranian protests on our college campuses? We are into our third week including the Golden Gate bridge protests.
I guess there really isn't much going on in the world that isn't bad.
The same old talk about the border being open still. After this long, who gives a f*ck?

It might not be the she is boring, but everything around us is so wrong and has changed.

The two of you need to have a talk about this obviously. Both of you may need new Hobby's and interests.
But, sometimes some people come off as boring when they just don't feel like talking.

Pinay_ako · Accepted Answer

How long have you been together? How about you take her out dancing? Go see the movies! Watch a live concert together! Go hiking or Mountain climbing! Try new restaurants! Go for a vacation together! The possibilities are endless with the one you love. Maybe she’s going through something. Ask her.

nascar · Accepted Answer

Feeling a bit of boredom in a relationship from time to time is pretty common, especially if you’ve settled into a routine. Here are a few strategies to spice things up and maybe find new ways to appreciate each other’s company:

Introduce New Activities: Sometimes, boredom creeps in because you're both used to doing the same things.
Communicate: Have an honest conversation about how you feel, but frame it positively. It’s not about blaming but sharing that you think both of you could add some new, fun elements into your relationship. She might feel the same way and have some ideas too!
Individual Hobbies: Encourage each other to pursue personal hobbies or interests.
Surprises: Small surprises can break the monotony of daily life. It doesn’t have to be anything grand; even bringing home a favorite snack, planning a surprise date, or a thoughtful note can make a big difference.
Reflect on What Boredom Means: Sometimes, boredom is a mask for other issues—maybe you're feeling disconnected emotionally or have unmet expectations.

blueonblack22 · Accepted Answer

Well she can be either incredibly boring or incredibly a dramatic pain in the ass. Pick your poison.

I am not sure women feel when they get labeled “boring” but when a man gets labeled “boring” from a love interest we know it’s the kiss of death. Especially if a modern western woman labels him that. It’s literally saying “your days are numbered”. Also it means the risk of being cheated on is exponentially high.

I would get some professional advice about this. You might of been raised in an unstable household and/or had an emotional unstable mother. Really try to figure out what is “so boring.” about her. Get to the root of it.

That’s not to say you might not have a valid point. But there could of been something from a damaged upbringing that contributed to this.

What I noticed about “boring” people is they were usually heavily criticized/controlled in their youth for trying/doing new things. Either that or they hate drama, chaos and unpredictability.

Chazmatazz269 · Accepted Answer

Hahaha! Not really, but i recognize the reality of the possibility.
That’s why i am certain one of the most important factors to maintaining a long, healthy and interesting relationship is each person having their own personal interests and activities. Once you’ve heard all of your significant other’s stories, conversations wane. But if you each have at least one weekly activity that you don’t do together, you always have new topics for discussion. Then add at least one new thing each week that you can discover together.
There’s an old saying, “If you’re bored, then you’re boring.”. I wholeheartedly agree. It wouldn’t take much effort to change your situation, and you have no less than 50% of the necessary control.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Navigating the waves of relationships, boredom can sometimes sneak in like an uninvited guest at a party! It's all about injecting a little excitement and curiosity into the mix. Have you tried exploring new activities together or diving deep into each other's interests? Sometimes, stepping out of the comfort zone together can reignite that spark. Remember, it's also about appreciation. Reflect on what initially drew you to her and share those feelings. I've definitely been there, and opening up about my feelings, while exploring new territories together with my wife, turned what seemed like a routine into an adventure. It's all about communication, love, and sometimes, a dash of spontaneity! Keep the flame alive, my friend. 😉✨

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Apple1996 · Answer

Stop expecting people to be your entertainment

AviatorTom · Answer

Happens to us all. When that happens, you think of the good times you have together, and realize that good times are in the future too.

RingOfFire · Answer

I've never felt that with a girlfriend but I have experienced it with some family members. There was a guy.. my mother's cousin.. who was one of my favorite people in the family. What a good person. And brilliant too. But the guy never stopped talking! (maybe it was because he was a lawyer!) He could gab and gab and gab. It would drive you NUTS! So as much as I liked him, I just could not stand sitting next to him at family events. Sadly he passed away a few years ago.

Then there is the wife of my favorite cousin who is like a brother. It's the same thing. I love this woman but she NEVER shuts up! And all of the things she talks about bore me to death. Again, she is brilliant: a chemistry professor. But the stuff she talks about. OYYYYYYYY!!! Makes me crazy. It's a love/hate thing.

thatshydork · Answer

There will be times where you’ll find anyone boring. I mean, just because you’re in a relationship doesn’t mean that you literally always have to be interested in what the other person says or does. Are you always interested in the lives of other people around you? Probably not, and that’s ok just like it’s ok to find your girlfriend boring from time to time.

whistlingwh0res · Answer

yeah... she must be a loser. You know that girls pretend that they are in peace in order to attract men because men are in constant battle. However, girls do fight and compete with each other. sometimes it's fierce. So, she might lost the battle against her enemy and accept her loss which makes her look in peace but inside she has turmoil. So you don't find her attractive when you get to know her. You find conflict in her instead of peacefulness. Some girls fight against the world with you. but you don't find the perfect peace unless you face your enemies by yourself. She can't give you a peace from time to time but the battle is upon you after all. Losers find losers boring.

itsclearlynicholas · Answer

I've often found this as a reason I don't want to strike up a girlfriend or wife or even friends with benefits - imagine I get bored or I even see someone better from afar and think "why the hell did I not wait or did not notice X before Y lol" so I'm lucky in many regards 😎💗😁

DarkLegacy · Answer

You should try talking to her about it and seeing what the problem is. How is she boring, obviously you should not have to put up with a boring girlfriend, but try working on it first and if it fails you should consider ending the relationship. You deserve a girlfriend that entertains you.

Billlewis · Answer

No offense, but my philosophy is that it's not her responsibility to keep me entertained, it's my job to keep her comfortable, happy and thoroughly satisfied at all times.

nawtee_me · Answer

If you are finding your girlfriend boring then maybe it is not her but you that you need to be looking at. What are you looking for and not getting? Remember you are the one that is board with her….
it may be that at your age you are going through growing pains. It is the mid life crisis that guys go through…

sheikalana · Answer

I never found my partner boring but sometimes I feel bored if we're both in the house doing nothing. Is not fun all the time sometimes you'll have boring days.

katiesmuff · Answer

It's your girlfriend, you tell us what you want to do with it! Assuming she is around your age as I am it would be hard to tell what you think is boring about her.

exitseven · Answer

Everyone gets boring sometimes. Your girlfriend is not here to entertain you. She may say the same about you.

Anonymous · Answer

Stop wasting her time? It's probably something more significant than boredom but it's what you settled on as description. Not every relationship will to last. People change. Dragging one out is wasting the other persons life and yours.

DishLady · Answer

So she’s pretty enough to be with but boring to you? Why be her boyfriend then? Just break up and move on.

PointlessNonsenseGuy · Answer

I'm sure if you just TELL your girlfriend how boring she is, she'll make an effort to be more interesting. She'll probably thank you for your constructive feedback.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Get a new one. People once they become boring, don't usually change. LOL

Amara_09 · Answer

You sometimes find your girlfriend boring?  How rude of you ……fucking asshole

slatyb · Answer

Develop your own interests. Or maybe she's not the woman for you.

Booklover_90 · Answer

Can I safely assume that you’re extroverted and she’s introverted?

OtterMan68 · Answer

take her to do some interesting and exciting things

Anonymous · Answer

Most women are incredibly boring. Most women only have sex to offer and have very little personality. When your girlfriend gets too boring, just send her away for awhile.

Princesspd · Answer

She is thinking of someone else. 🤭

laly520 · Answer

u need to talk to her

IWILLPLEASEYOU · Answer

BONE HER UNTIL SHE'S NOT

VV3ZZY123 · Answer

Take some Magic Mushrooms

dolemite58 · Answer

Think of james woods instead

DrPepper12 · Answer

Get a new one?

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